How to avoid Dating a Narcissist

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Some people are unsuspecting, not realizing that their partner is a narcissist. Aspies fail to discover the subtle signs in some people with NPD.

If you have ever been in SHOCK that your partner has suddenly left you or you caught them with another partner, share your stories....

I used to wish that I’d catch my husband with another woman.

I caught my partners with other men.
I can't say I was shocked, but I wish they'd just told me their interest from the start.

Did you know that 50% of the population suffer from Narcissistic Personality Disorder but 90% are talented at convincing their partner that they are a good partner.

Some aspies are manipulated even more easily.

A lot of you have mentioned that their partner was good at the beginning but not later.

Beware that certain people attract narcs more easily than others due to their empath traits. Remember, opposites attract. Empaths attract narcissists

I'm always skeptical of people who claim wide swaths of the population are narcissists, it always seems more like an admission of being unable to get along with others than a verifiable fact supported by real-world evidence.

Beyond that, when someone seeks to attribute any sort of undesirable behaviour in others to narcissism instead of considering that they may have understandable (if not justifiable) motives that go beyond just serving their ego, it tends to scream this person refuses to consider others perspectives before making judgments about their motives which, if I'm not mistaken, is the sort of behaviour and attitude one would associate with narcissistic ways of thinking.

Good point.

Most of the time relationships don’t work because of incompatibility, not because someone has narcissism.

There's a difference between someone being a Narcissist and having clinical NPD.

I suppose most can be part-time Narcissists too (lol) - like doing something narcissistic.

Clinical NPD like my exh is the one that's very rare.

The OP was referring to NPD in this made-up statistic:

Oh good. I hadn't looked at the OP for quite a while. Thanks.

"Epidemiology

As of 2018, overall prevalence is estimated to range from 0.8% to 6.2%.[68][69] In 2008 under the DSM-IV, lifetime prevalence of NPD was estimated to be 6.2%, with 7.7% for men and 4.8% for women,[70] with a 2015 study confirming the gender difference.[71] In clinical settings, prevalence estimates range from 1% to 15%.[7][72] The occurrence of narcissistic personality disorder presents a high rate of comorbidity with other mental disorders.[25]"

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Narcissistic_personality_disorder

The best thing you can do is learn how to spot them

-They love to talk about themselves
-They are usually pretty eager to get to know you ASAP
-They are nosy
-They play the victim
-They make unrealistic plans with you about getting married in a month
-They seem to talk about how they are the hero doing xyz