Guys to overprotective of there girlfriends?

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Of course, not everybody misbehaves when they've been drinking. I absolutely never said everybody does. My mother might have a couple of drinks; this doesn't make her into a whirling dervish.

But misbehaving when drunk is fairly common, probably more common than misbehaving when sober.

They don't call alcohol "liquid courage" for nothing.

Some people can "hold in their liquor"; others cannot.

Legally, if you assault somebody while drunk, you are not found innocent of that assault just because you've been drinking at the time of the assault.

Bars are places where people misunderstand, and get misunderstood, all the time. I stay away from this minefield. They are not places for people with questionable social skills. I learned, very quickly, that bars aren't places for me.

I think it's our perception of his behaviour yes.

I see it as a man trying to form a relationship with a woman but not knowing how to do it, and making mistakes.

The talking to a woman while knowing she's on a date----that's pretty ridiculous.

I would bet that 99 people out of 100 men wouldn't do this.

If I were to do this (of course, I've never done this!), I might earn myself a punch in the face.

I wonder if James actually knew the woman he spoke to was on a date.

If the boyfriend is present, and the woman isn't a friend of the guy or if the guy talking isn't a friend of the boyfriend, the guy just shouldn't talk to her out of the blue. It's not appropriate---sort of like some random woman shouldn't go up to a guy while he's obviously with a girlfriend, and talk to him without acknowledging the presence of the girlfriend.

It would be good, in this situation, to at least acknowledge the presence of the boyfriend/girlfriend. Maybe introduce myself to him/her.

Taking to a stranger woman in the presence of the boyfriend would be seen as a challenge by the boyfriend. Most boyfriends wouldn't make much of it, would be classy about it, but would let the stranger guy know in some way that he did an inappropriate thing.

Daniel said this:

How long has the OP been trying to chat up, pick up, or hook up with women at the same location?  If more than a few months, then he has likely already gained an uncomplimentary reputation among all the patrons there, thus reducing his chances to less than nil.

OK so it seems that TwilightPrincess is taking the stance of being protective of said women, whereas I and others don't think they need protection in this case. I think it really comes down to, do you think his behaviour will go more into the 'creepy' territory or away.

I think it will go away as he seems to learn from his mistakes.

If it's the sort of bar found in NYC----what we call a "dive"---then most of the other male bar patrons are of a similar mindset as James.

A guy who is a stranger to both the woman and the boyfriend shouldn't come up to them out of the blue. He definitely shouldn't "chat up" the woman. That would be an insult to the guy, and probably to the woman, too.

It's really a rather sleazy thing to do. It's not something that most guys would do. I wouldn't do it.