Reasons women do not date us!

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Not wanting to be blunt, but if you are an attractive younger female and you choose to apply the mantra - be non-judgemental and give every male I meet a chance and get to know them then she would would end up barricading herself in her home.

That’s not necessarily true and that’s not really what I was talking about.

I wish men who are not women would stop saying what it’s like for women - attractive or otherwise. Déjà-vu.

Take out the trigger words like "attractive" and it would still be true. Overcoming biological determinants of gender interaction using intellect and philosophical frameworks is going to take a bit more effort. In 2024 we haven't really got there yet.

You are mansplaining again. You don’t know what it’s like to be a woman, attractive or otherwise, since you aren’t one.

ummm last time I checked, the OP is a man, and this thread is about males

It doesn’t really matter who the OP is. Mansplaining is mansplaining.

These were about women:

Every woman’s experience is different due to a variety of factors. There’s a lot of variation depending on location too. It’s best not to assume that you know women’s experiences better than they do.

Mansplaining feels like a pretty derogatory term. It is making me uncomfortable:

https://www.theguardian.com/media/mind-your-language/2015/feb/12/allow-me-to-explain-why-we-dont-need-words-like-mansplain

Based on the other thread, Cornflake seemed okay with it in certain situations. Mansplaining makes some female members uncomfortable, so it would be nice if members stopped engaging in it.

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CF has indeed seemed to endorse the term mansplaining.

I personally don't think that makes it okay on a moral level. Though I understand how that might make it more legitimate in terms of not breaking the rules. I wasn't really getting at that anyway.

seems to be mainsplaining is being weaponised and deployed strategically
Jamesy asked a question - he is looking for "reasons why women do not date us"
He showed a video of some dude who tried to simplify it down to 5 reasons
Most of us (quite reasonably) said this is an oversimplification.
How the heck is this mansplaining????
Literally men advising men....

No I was responding to specific posts of yours which had nothing to do with the original post/topic.

Every woman’s experience is different due to a variety of factors. There’s a lot of variation depending on location too. It’s best not to assume that you know women’s experiences better than they do.

^^^
That's not how it came across but maybe in future say "in this post you are mansplaining"

I messaged that some stuff in the past couple of pages was off-topic.

This is what I think of the video:

It's okay to be sensitive, even in the sense of being fragile and easily hurt. It's okay not to have money. It's okay to watch porn, though it's probably better not to bring it up at first. It's perfectly fine to go for a walk and coffee on a date, and personally I would never be with anyone who likes MMA fighting and if he wanted to take me to one I would just refuse to go. Being nervous and anxious is fine. And muscles are simply not necessary, though some women might like them.

Basically I disagree with all of it, as a woman. Be you, and find the woman who appreciates who you are. Sure, you can work on improving some things about yourself if you want to, but trying to be someone else just doesn't work.

↑ Are you trying to imply that every woman is unique, has her own preferences, and can make her own choices?

I am shocked!

Shocked, I say!