I am the XX year old virgin. Add your name to the list.

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Congrats.



Heh. The first time, I blew my load pretty
fast (I think - who knows how long we're
talking with me), but I was so into it, that I
just kept going. One of the great advantages
of NOT using condoms.

It's not so much the fact of trying to convince myself that it's no big deal as it is that A) after some run-ins with women that were just trying to use me, it made me appreciate my virginity a lot more B) after worrying about for a while, some people, like myself, eventually get so desensitized and worn out by when/if/how they'll lose their virginity that having a 'Fukitol™' attitude and find that it's easier to not bother and find other things to worry/concern ourselves about, things we -can- control, C) growth and development of self-confidence and self-worth over time, and D) actually doing some research and investigation into what the chances are that we'll meet someone worth losing our virginity to.

I did quite a bit of research and looking into that kind of thing and from my own observations, I can safely say I'm better off remaining a virgin and even single. Of the six -inhabitable- continents (Antarctica being excluded because most people can't live there without special gear, etc.) on Earth with varying social views on the matter, five of those continents don't share the views and qualities I hold dear when it comes to relationships and sex. North America is one of those continents who's values differ from mine and sadly, that's where I live, specifically the cesspool country of the United States. The permissive attitude toward sex in America makes me queasy and nauseated. Most, from what I've read, see being a virgin as a stigma, a bad thing to be, and that makes me want to vomit.

So, to answer your question from a personal standpoint, at one time in my life, your questions did hold some validity and reason. However, that was 2+ years back when that would have been the case. Now, I genuinely and truly feel all 'eh, no big deal' because that means I can sit on the sidelines and laugh while others who're sleeping with anyone (male or female) with their legs open enjoy their AIDS, herpes, other STD's, unplanned pregnancy, and ruined future because they thought with their genitalia, not their head. I'll be working on my college education, my career, and my future with none of that to worry about.

You say you lost your v-card, you should now understand that it isn't. The media blows up sex to be something much bigger than it is. It depicts it in an unrealistic light, and people now feel they have to live up to it's false image of what sex is. Sex can be great, but it can also be dangerous, and is a powerful force in a person's life. Heroin is an amazing high too (most people say it's better than sex), but society doesn't make a big deal out of people who haven't tried that. Having done both, I can say that they can equally mess up your life...

hi. i just want to say to any guys who are less than thrilled about their virgin status... that i think virgins are HOT. cute and sexy both. and it is pretty unlikely i will find my soulmate at all, and i am not a virgin myself anyway, but i would love to get married to a virgin... it would be a big turn on. so guys, if you are? don't stress!

19 years old and still a virgin

I'm regaining mine.

I still have my anal cherry intact.

also...


PS: wasn't there some guy who sold his virginity on ebay for like $10 million

autie chick, not virgin, I love the idea of a male virgin, though. Most of my experiences have been terrible, and I don't have time for sex.

28 seems to be a popular age on this thread as well, so add me to the list. Never even kissed a girl. I'm suprised that only one poster mentioned this:

I've felt for years that I could be perfectly happy if I could just turn my sex drive off and be a machine. At 22, I made a decision that will probably take my virginity with me to the grave: I got so sick of needing to regularly masturbate that I tried a more unpleasant means of neutralizing my libido...involving a similar rythmic motion and a dumbell.

They weren't crushed, but something's wrong with the right one now. Well, despite the constant pain, especially when I ejaculate, I STILL need to masturbate just as often. I probably fantasize about sex even more now, only now those fantasies are jumbled together with suicide fantasies. I seem to have developed the rather nonsensical idea that I could die and get a do-over on this life, only this time with the social skills necessary to take some of the opportunities I was oblibious to up through college. I know it's just because I'll never have any better opportunities than back then. I don't connect with people, and the first time I heard the term "emotional needs" I was completely baffled, so I guess I'd just be using anyone I had sex with.

And yet, even people who have the same dismissive attitude toward ever actually having sex are completely shocked at the idea of wanting to castrate myself. Isn't it the completely logical next step? I know that even going through with total castration won't kill the urge completely, so I'd just get prescription chemical castrators if I had health insurance.

Well, for that matter, I could also see about a little reconstructive surgery...

And even if I did, I've developed a lot of bitterness and hostility surrounding my sexuality that I'd probably take out on my first willing partner, so maybe I just SHOULDN'T lose my virginity. A fantasy that never completely leaves me is saving my virginity until marriage, just so that on my wedding day, I could lift the veil of my bride and gaze deeply into her eyes, never deviating it for a second as I pull the automagnum from my pocket and blow my brains out onto my loved ones, with the same stupid laughter that they always gave me as a response to questions for advice on how to go about dating echoing through what's left of my head..."Oh, you'll figure it out, heh, heh, heh..."

Ah, to be young again...

Seriously, SOME of the guys here must have thought about castrating yourselves. Anyone? Not to deraill the thread, but I'm really curious about this.

I don't know if it's abstaining,
when one doesn't have a real
choice in the matter.

I am not a virgin, but I am proud to have depressingly hard time with relationships that is unlikely to get significantly better.

Lots of people choose not to have sex, unlike what pop culture would have you believe. Not everyone out there is having sex.

I was just referring to myself,
and the general tenor here,
which seems to be that one
wants, but isn't getting any.

I wouldn't really call that 'voluntary'
even if it's a matter of choosing NOT
to have sex with certain people.

I don't think there's a way to fully stop the sex drive. It's biologically hard-wired as a means to perpetuate the species. Without sex, humanity would die...



Hell... even vulcans get all riled up about it (albeit only once every seven years...)