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24 Nov 2010, 5:38 am

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What do you think about alpha females? Do you find them scary?


I'm much less attracted to em than I am to Betas & Omegas. Alphas don't want to associate with me & tend to put me down because I'm not independent enough but if one was interested in me; I'd give her a chance


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24 Nov 2010, 6:16 pm

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No, I have dinner with a woman who knows that I wear the pants in the family.

well, there are definitely women out there who seek out men who dominate them. it is often based on low self-esteem.

i prefer a relationship that involves equality, then we can both "wear the pants".


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25 Nov 2010, 1:52 am

It's all a matter of perspective when it comes to the definition of an Alpha Female so there is no wrong answer. In my opinion, an Alpha Female is a woman who defies the traditional female submissive behavior and may exihibit some masculine behavior.

I'm strong, confident, stubborn, intelligent, good looking, and dominant. No one messes with me or looks at me the wrong way, no body tells me what to do, even guys twice my size are scared of me. I've been told all my life that I am very intimidating.

Both my parents were Alphas



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25 Nov 2010, 1:52 am

It's all a matter of perspective when it comes to the definition of an Alpha Female so there is no wrong answer. In my opinion, an Alpha Female is a woman who defies the traditional female submissive behavior and may exihibit some masculine behavior.

I'm strong, confident, stubborn, intelligent, good looking, and dominant. No one messes with me or looks at me the wrong way, no body tells me what to do, even guys twice my size are scared of me. I've been told all my life that I am very intimidating.

Both my parents were Alphas



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25 Nov 2010, 8:27 pm

I was under the assumption that, in pack animals, alpha females don't rule over beta males.

The toughest member of each sex finds eachother.

The alpha female will only submit to to the alpha male.

I'm a strong man and find that normally tough women will tend to defer to me.

I have found myself to be wrong, and it didn't matter. I have offered them things they didn't like, and it didn't matter. I could do no wrong in their eyes.

I would have to be responsible out of pity for her.

I suggest that the people, who you disrespected, weren't suitable to your tastes, but you weren't ruthless enough to follow through.

I like strong women just fine, and they don't dishonor me.



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25 Nov 2010, 11:36 pm

To each his own



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25 Nov 2010, 11:41 pm

Wombat wrote:
Squirrelrat wrote:
Kilroy wrote:
Wombat wrote:
There are "house husbands" but they have no balls and no self respect.


why do I get the feeling you have dinner with a blow up doll you think talks to you


:lmao:


No, I have dinner with a woman who knows that I wear the pants in the family.


yeah, you enjoying the 1950's?
no one cares about your sexist crap, all its going to do is get you flammed



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26 Nov 2010, 1:26 pm

As someone who is somewhere on the spectrum, I systematize very mundane things.

I understand that the system of patriarchy comes with a considerable amount of cultural baggage, but having a knowledge of my expectations provides a sense of stability for me.

I cherish things which may seem extraneous to other people, and, in so doing, am a good steward to them -- much more so to people who are pillars in my choice of lifestyle.

That someone may not be my moral authority does not at all imply that I'm a sadist.

It simply means that I reserve the right to dismiss implacable crazymakers in order to keep the peace.

I see a dynasty as being similar to a business arrangement, but I also associate hospitality with solace.

In my experience, it is a false form of authority which factionalizes his constituency, baits them with incompatible expectations, and then reconciles the parts on his own terms. This built-in lack of coordination is antithetical to the way my mind works, for I would become embroiled under the state of controlled chaos, which surrounded me.

I believe that the true seat of initiative should be able to coordinate symbiotic relationships, if this makes sense. Can the same be said of a belligerent shrew, who takes pride in being a troublemaker?

In all of their pridefulness, I never hear them bragging of what their fierceness has accomplished for others, except as helpmeets.



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26 Nov 2010, 1:32 pm

friedmacguffins wrote:
As someone who is somewhere on the spectrum, I systematize very mundane things.

I understand that the system of patriarchy comes with a considerable amount of cultural baggage, but having a knowledge of my expectations provides a sense of stability for me.

I cherish things which may seem extraneous to other people, and, in so doing, am a good steward to them -- much more so to people who are pillars in my choice of lifestyle.

That someone may not be my moral authority does not at all imply that I'm a sadist.

It simply means that I reserve the right to dismiss implacable crazymakers in order to keep the peace.

I see a dynasty as being similar to a business arrangement, but I also associate hospitality with solace.

In my experience, it is a false form of authority which factionalizes his constituency, baits them with incompatible expectations, and then reconciles the parts on his own terms. This built-in lack of coordination is antithetical to the way my mind works, for I would become embroiled under the state of controlled chaos, which surrounded me.

I believe that the true seat of initiative should be able to coordinate symbiotic relationships, if this makes sense. Can the same be said of a belligerent shrew, who takes pride in being a troublemaker?

In all of their pridefulness, I never hear them bragging of what their fierceness has accomplished for others, except as helpmeets.

pardon?
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are you saying that you dominate women to keep things stable?

if that is what you imply... it would not work in my house. if my husband dominated me, he would be heading a household of 1.


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26 Nov 2010, 5:36 pm

I hate popular and big mouthed girls, having to put up with them all through school. On the Greek alphabet I would probably be on upsilon or other ridiculously low letter. So I'm more attracted to other lower letters of any sex. Screw alphas, betas or even gammas, they are all cocky twats.

(I enjoy using the Greek alphabet as an analogy for the social ladder, it seems to be work quite well. :chin: )


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26 Nov 2010, 6:28 pm

I am psi.


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10 Dec 2010, 6:06 pm

hyperlexian wrote:
pardon?
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are you saying that you dominate women to keep things stable?

if that is what you imply... it would not work in my house. if my husband dominated me, he would be heading a household of 1.


I would reserve the right to terminate an unstable arrangement, as opposed to being emotionally overshadowed. I think we're both agreed on this point.

But, as the head of a household, I would not prefer a woman with career goals outside of the home. This doesn't mean that I would entrap and dominate her. I just have no desire to date someone who is incompatible with my value system.



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10 Dec 2010, 6:07 pm

I couldn't be an alpha-female in a relationship.
It'd feel so unnatural.



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10 Dec 2010, 6:26 pm

friedmacguffins wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
pardon?
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are you saying that you dominate women to keep things stable?

if that is what you imply... it would not work in my house. if my husband dominated me, he would be heading a household of 1.


I would reserve the right to terminate an unstable arrangement, as opposed to being emotionally overshadowed. I think we're both agreed on this point.

But, as the head of a household, I would not prefer a woman with career goals outside of the home. This doesn't mean that I would entrap and dominate her. I just have no desire to date someone who is incompatible with my value system.

many women choose to have careers later on in life. she may start off as a homemaker but change her mind later on. if you threaten to leave her in that instance, it would in fact be a form of entrapment and domination. you would be telling her that she is not allowed to fully develop her own interests and a career or risk total abandonment.

i am glad my husband is a modern man with modern expectations. we have an equal partnership, and we are still together after many years.


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10 Dec 2010, 7:13 pm

Again, I would expect homekeeping to be her primary interest.

I am not into domination and threats.

There are communities for all sorts of strange things, and there's an old-fashioned subset, also.



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10 Dec 2010, 7:15 pm

friedmacguffins wrote:
Again, I would expect homekeeping to be her primary interest.



Ah, to be back in the 50's...