Why do girls get to just sit around and get guys?

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yeah, i think this topic has come up due to one thing...the lack of empathy aspies often have...i mean NO ONE could live a life worse than us could they...POSSIBLY??!

mr pro-toss (lulz, that sounds like a sex aid) is so sad about never being approached by females...so instead of doing something productive, like, perhaps, a bit of grooming, getting a nice shirt, reading up on dating techniques (there's s**t LOADS of stuff on the net to help shy types talk to girls) and other such self-improvements...he blames the WHOLE WORLD and expects THEM to change...well, they're not, no matter how much you rant and whine, they're not...get over it!

and yeah, maybe you'll get rejected...maybe it'll hurt the first few times...but i can sure as hell tell you that after a while it doesn't start to hurt as much anymore...maybe you go get yourself some therapy and get some self-worth, so every rejection doesn't destroy you, it's just simply "oh well, she doesn't like me...i'll move on and find someone else"...

because i tell you, unless you at least get in the game, go make some friends with females, be around them, get them to set you up, get in with a nice crowd; you're gonna end up with a 99% probability of dying alone...(unless you get EXTREMELY lucky and omg meet the girl of your dreams at some f*****g library or something)

i met my current love interest through mutual female friends, who i had met at a club weeks before, see man, you gotta make the effort.

s**t man, i'm a f*****g tranny and i'm telling YOU to get some balls?

grow the f**k up.

<3 xanny x

I see this all the time. Women want the smart, cute, great personality, honest and respectful type guys, yet they go out dressing like sluts because they think that these type of men will pay more attention to them...wrong! What they get instead , is a bunch of perverts that are constantly gawking at them...DUH! A lot of them, need to work on their personalities, first, before anything.

There seems to be an assumption that we don't ask girls out because we might be rejected (and hence we're not asking out girls we want to date and that might say yes), instead of because it's certain that we will be - is there any point in asking out a girl that you know for a fact is very much taken for the long haul? Is there any point in asking out a girl that avoids you like the plague? And if all the women you know that you would actually want to date or would even consider dating fall in one of those two categories? And no, I'm not the I-would-only-ever-date-a-supermodel type. Fairly minor changes like a nice shirt aren't going to persuade girls that avoid me like the plague or ones that are taken for the long haul, and I'm not looking for any gf just for the sake of getting one (it would not be worth the time, effort or money spent).
Also, I notice that the people saying that you shouldn't care about rejection are usually either female (which normally don't get rejected because they don't ask guys out in the first place) or males that don't have difficulties dating. Just like people that tell you 'others have it worse than you' invariably have it better than you.



Your particular situation may be different, but usually for males the least effective way of getting a date is being friends first - any move towards romance (even if she grew on you and your initial friendly approach was entirely genuine) usually destroys the friendship with nothing gained - the dreaded 'let's be friends' when they might as well say 'avaunt and quite my sight, let the earth hide thee!'



Probably good advice generally, impractical in my particular case (the nice crowds I know are either overwhelmingly male (with zero single females) or I just don't connect with them at all)

i assure you my dating history has been a complete f*****g trainwreck ^.^

but man, you have to keep trying, and yes, make female friends, for one...it will stop you feeling alienated from the female sex, and 2, they may have other female friends who might like you ^.^

don't go for girls that avoid you, that's a waste of time, go for ones that are smiling and receptive, oh, and eye contact is very important, so gotta practice that too.

i just wanna make sure none of you lovely fellas end up alone, but you really have to pull your fingers out and try.

x

I have more female friends than male friends. I don't see any mysterious quality with the female gender. And yet, I've never had a girlfriend...


They usually end up on that friend list above


Believe me. I'm trying... it's just not working...

And the answer is: "Because they're different to men"

What about converse questions: "Why do men get to write the symphonies?" or "Why do men always beat women at most sports?"

Now that is just plain insulting...

Getting female friends is all fine and dandy (I'm actually quite good at making female friends), but to say that you basically have to go clubbing in order to find someone is just so f*****g stupid... There's no way in hell that I'm going anywhere near clubs, especially for the purpose of finding women...

Sorry if I sound like a prick, but I've been having a bad day...

i said nothing at all about going to night clubs...

although i like gothic/rock nightclubs, less a**holes about ^.^