Cyberman wrote:
You send soldiers into battle without proper equipment or strategy, it doesn't matter how brave and macho they are, they WILL die.
This is dating not war when you use strategies you run the risk of misrepresenting yourself. What Alex says is true not very gentle with the wording but correct. Girls want someone who will improve their life in some way, someone without confidence or lets rejections get them down will look like they can not achieve this.
The problem is with LPP question if your asking can a person with HFA, Asperger's or PDD-NOS (sorry if I'm missing a few diagnoses) can ask 2 or 3 girls out? Yes can someone who is socially introverted ask 2 to 3 girls out? No with no exposure there is very little chance of having meaningful interactions that would lead to a chance at a date. Is it impossible in either case? No one has to try harder then the other.
This brings up the question of what is considered asking someone out. If you define asking out as let’s (insert activity here) sometime or something related to that you will have much more success then say "hey can we go out to dinner and become an item?" (I know that is kind of an exaggeration but I think it’s easy to see my point.) In the end the approach is important and getting someone who suits your needs is as well. In your lifetime you may never meet that woman that fulfills everything you need due to lack of exposure even if you are socially inclined.
To address another point do women find it creepy or undesirable if you ask multiple women out? Depends on how you do it. If you go for a relationship quickly most women will think you’re just trying to latch on to whatever you can get. If you ask them to activities or whatever which has no pressure on it they will not. The date allows you to evaluate compatibility and see if that person is right for you and yes you also need to see if there is a spark there in either case you’re putting yourself on the line so multiple "dates" or outings can be necessary.
As an example when I met my girlfriend now I was very socially reclusive. She took me out to places I normally wouldn't frequent. In my case Bars and Clubs which I don't frequent due to my not drinking alcohol and not doing drugs. In that time we have added a sort of third wheel to our relationship someone who was more interested in my girlfriend then me initially but after hanging with me consented to threesomes with both of us. (That is a situation I don't want to get into because it has its problems.) In the end just because you’re socially introverted or have social difficulties doesn't mean you can't do all that.
23 Sep 2008, 11:54 pm
