mitharatowen wrote:
I 'threaten' to leave about ... every other month. It's not really a threat, though, its because I'm really thinking about doing it. I keep giving him more chances... because I'm a easily dominated person. I don't have much guts.
Anyway this is all my side. I'm probaby just too much of a b***h so that's why he doesn't want to touch me or something. Whatevah. Like I said, I'm trying to be nicer and I hope that helps but it doesn't seem to me like it will change his views of intimacy. He's just got much less drive and much less 'kinkiness' than me. I'm the christian woman you spoke about in your question in the adult forum only the lie was not the size. I don't want to leave him because of my beleifs but I'm not sure how I can ever be happy this way.
I know there are plenty of people out there in unhappy marriages and they survive. So I need to figure out how to do it. But I'm honestly not sure I can. I'm about this close to going out and finding a stranger to fool around with.
Hi beautiful,
If you are going to be a b***h ... be this type:
Beautiful
Intelligent
Talented
Creative
Honest
Or, if you like:
Cunning and
Horny.
That aside, I spent thirty years in a relationship that didn't work after the first twelve months. I got out a year ago ... I should have got out 30 years ago. Please don't torture yourself because of your beliefs.
If the time has come that you can definitely say to yourself "the relationship isn't working" then please stop torturing yourself and get out.
You need to find someone who suits you, and vice versa. Love and relationships only work when you find the right person. Finding someone who is a little bit OK, and then wanting them to change simply does not work for anyone. Threatening to leave to make him change isn't going to work either.
There's a beautiful song by Melinda Schneider that you and your partner (whoever that might be) need to be able to sing to each other. It's called "Be yourself". The chorus goes:
"Be yourself, everybody else is taken,
and no one else can do the things you do.
Let your heart write the music that you're making.
You be you, everybody else is taken."
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No person can tell another what to do ... but here is what I think ... (Cheyenne Wisdom)
16 Jan 2009, 4:49 pm
Feel free to post in here 
But ok, yeah, will do!
