need help urgentley!!

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Theres this girl i've been talking to over the internet, she dosent live too far away from me. Some of my friends have met her in real life.

I've been talking to her for about a week now and we've clicked on real good and we've gotten personal. I want to meet her in real life but i dont really know a good way in which i can just ask her to meet up because im always paranoid that people will think im a creep if i ask these things. We've been talking about love lots and complimenting each other. Most other times where i talk to girls i just become there close friends rather than there potential boyfriend mainly because im afraid of flirting but i've been doing alot of it with this girl.

I just need advice on how to ask this girl to meet up in real life?

thanks

congratulations!
I'm afraid i can't offer much advice but here goes nothing..
is there anywhere you go to regularly, like a social club or indeed any meeting place? i would suggest inviting this girl to such a place.. i would imagine that if an aspie feels safe somewhere, then this girl will too, you know?
alternatively, perhaps invite her to a restaurant for a meal..?
anyways, hopefully someone more experienced in these matters will reply.. good luck

Fudo summed it up pretty good. Just invite her to a normal place you go or to do an everyday activity (eating, shopping). Somewhere public, but where you're comfortable being yourself.

Also phrase it like "I'm was going to go/do xxxxxxxxx, would you like to join me?". Very non-threatening way to ask someone out.

You are most likely going to do all the errors. Everybody does, so calm down. Only advice you actually need is "be yourself". No matter how cliché it sounds. She doesn't want you to be anybody else. Keep your cool and don't talk excessively about problems or yourself and you'll do fine.

EDIT: If you can't define excessively, don't talk about problems at all unless asked. But then, keep it to facts and be brief.

Dear Abby always suggests getting together for coffee in a public place with someone you've met over the internet... something brief like coffee gives an automatic exit if things start to go down the tubes... and if sparks fly, future dates can be set up.

Be cool, it'll go as it goes. Just be yourself and whatever happens will be genuine.

urgently** sorry, that's been bugging me.

Fudo, it bugged me too, but my programming will no longer permit me to correct someone else's spelling/typos... thanks. Takes the subliminal pressure off...

The best thing to do is say something like that you've been talking online for a few weeks, and that because you and her live close, and then ask if she would like to meet up. When you say it in that way, she should be convinced to say "yes."