Met a Guy
Ok, so I went to Happy Hour and it was kinda boring and awkward and stressful until this really sweet guy (a co-worker/friend) of my friend arrived. She introduced us and he started talking to me and then he ONLY talked to me, the whole night! So I knew he was interested. He even asked to see my photography and stuff.
I straight away laid down the rule that I'm a good girl, when he asked me all these questions and he actually bought me a glass of wine and was really sweet to me. But then later, when he started getting a little tipsy, he started touching me. Like trying to hug me, and dance with me. I got stiff and he noticed it and asked me what was wrong.....I don't like to get close to people, especially I find it VERY difficult to get close to guys!! ! It's AWKWARD!! ! LOOL Was it normal that he was trying to hold my hand, and stuff like that so soon!?!? Maybe it was all the liquor talking.....I don't know, but he said he'd like to see me again. So let me know what you guys think of all this....
Of course he's after your vagina too. It's just not so likely that he was after only that. Forget the 6 month rule. If you want to have sex with him, do it. Don't artificially put restraints on yourself. Do whatever you want. He will not laugh at you.
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Absolutely, if you care for each other it will become obvious beforw 6 months is up.
Though sex is not the most important thing in a relationship, it still is an important one. And not having sex because you want to test him does not seem like love to me. Try to think for a moment that his goals are honest and true. Remember: Innocent until proven guilty.
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I don't think I'd do anything like that on the first day!
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Like a drop of blood in a tank of flesh-eating piranhas, a new idea never fails to arouse the wrath of herd prejudice.
there are lots of female pigs out there too..
Honestly, i'd discount going out with anyone who tries something on the first night, it shows a huge amount of disrespect. I imagine because of your social awkwardness he decided you'd be an easy target, as soon as you sleep with this guy, he wont want to have anything to do with you.
I would never wait six months for anybody! Sex is a very important part of a relationship and making someone wait that long for it is a bad idea. Besides, imagine if the guy turns out to be terrible in bed... you've just wasted six months on somebody.
Having "six month rules" and all that crap is just the stuff NTs pull all the time and I hate it. If you want to sleep with someone do it. If you want to call them the next day without waiting for the "three day rule" (which I am told people do so they do not seem too keen), do it. Jez, no need to make things harder than they already are by stupid game playing.
No it doesn't necessarily. Why is really wanting to sleep with someone disrespecting them? I would feel flattered personally and if I liked them I would have slept with them. In fact, the only time I have waited to have sex with someone longer than the first date (not by choice, few things came up in the first three weeks) the guy turned out to be awful in bed.. and I'd just wasted three weeks with someone who I was completely sexually incompatible with.
I would never wait six months for anybody! Sex is a very important part of a relationship and making someone wait that long for it is a bad idea. Besides, imagine if the guy turns out to be terrible in bed... you've just wasted six months on somebody.
Having "six month rules" and all that crap is just the stuff NTs pull all the time and I hate it. If you want to sleep with someone do it. If you want to call them the next day without waiting for the "three day rule" (which I am told people do so they do not seem too keen), do it. Jez, no need to make things harder than they already are by stupid game playing.
No it doesn't necessarily. Why is really wanting to sleep with someone disrespecting them? I would feel flattered personally and if I liked them I would have slept with them. In fact, the only time I have waited to have sex with someone longer than the first date (not by choice, few things came up in the first three weeks) the guy turned out to be awful in bed.. and I'd just wasted three weeks with someone who I was completely sexually incompatible with.
Just a curious question: Why you're here?