Be Yourself

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Hey aspie guys. I have been seeing all your posts and my response is to just be yourself. Stop trying to be something you are not. If you are shy, be shy. If you are outgoing, be outgoing. If you are awkward, be awkward. Who cares what a girls thinks of you. Be what you are whether you are an introvert or an extrovert. I have nothing more to say, cuz thats how life works and its easier that way, it may not be easier to gain one's approval, but it is easier to accept yourself this way, and if you cant accept yourself the way you are, then you must be looking for someone else's approval.

But if we're shy and we be shy, we never get anywhere

Those selfish women won't let us have sex with them!! !

But you are never going to be who they want you to be, and that's not a success either. The women who marry aspie men, I often hear that it is because of their traits, the traits that make you all the way you are.

But if we're too shy to approach them or talk to them, how will we ever find them?

Through the things you do. Through whatever you like to do. There comes a time when you have to approach them, and when you don't. There are many places to meet women without having to do either. Like a grocery store, the cashier. Most women arent going to approach men, so I'm not going to sit here and tell you BS from my ass. There's a time when you need to approach a women, even if you are shy and nervous, just give it a try. And if she doesnt like you or think you are too weird or insecure then forget about her, she's not worthy of you. Just keep trying this approach until you find a girl that likes you. Most of the ones that like you, will come to you anyways. And you can get more out of the girl that likes you, than the girl that you like. Think about it.

Who cares who does the asking, as long as someone does. If both people are waiting around on the other person to approach them, neither one is gonna get a date.

exactly what i'm trying to say SilverStar. But when someone starts to act stupid when the other person asks then there should be no more asking to that person and just move on

She speaks the truth, if you go and act like someone you're not, then if you find someone that likes what you're acting like, they wont know the real you, and what if the real you comes out and she doesnt like it, then what?

I couldn't agree more.

Then the guys who are looking for a booty call win.

The guys who are looking for something deeper lose.

There are a lot of guys on here that seem to just be looking for a booty call, though.

I say, that the guys looking for a booty call, will get their booty, if they play the game right.



And the guys looking for something deeper, will find something deeper if they just be theirselves, and be patient. It can take many years to find that girl that your truly compatible with.

Exactly

Use your head. That's what's wrong with most people. Most people let their emotions get in the way, that's how we end up with people who overdose. People like this let their emotions get in the way, as do most people. Use your head. Never act on an emotion. This is how we get nice respectful men who turn into rapists and serial killers. Don't blame others for you actions. When you feel an emotion, ignore it, it's just an emotion. Use your head, use your head, use your head. think through your problems

Yeah, if i worried about every chick I've had the hot's for, I'd be in an insane asylum by now.

Isn't that the truth. I try to be myself now even though that does not win me any dates.

You're on the right track, now all you can do is be patient. Maybe try getting absorbed in an obsession, and then try things that could lead you to meet a woman with similar interests? (like finding a place where you might cross paths)