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I've been to the women's discussion section, and I have to say that the love and dating section might as well be called "The Male's Discussion" section because compared to the women's discussion its equal. except the women talk more about how they want to get away from sex and their boyfriends and we talk about how we want sex and we never can get any.

why do aspie girls lose their virginity and marry so much earlier than aspie men; if aspie men ever get the chance?

Probably has something to do with gender expectations in our society. Men are expected to be initiators and women aren't, but if you're an aspie then the men have trouble living up to that expectation and can't get a girl that way.

I'm not a bad looking guy. I'm tall, black, handsome. i'm 17 and I already have a full grown beard, long eyelashes, and I'm smart.

But about what you just said.

Is the answer to my and all the aspie guys problems is to just be what society wants us so i'll problem just goes away quicker

No, I'm not saying aspie guys should change, they just have a disadvantage that's all. Not everyone abides to these gender role beliefs. I don't for one. I'm normally the one to make the first move.

I agree with belle_enigma. Part of our disadvantage is that Asperger's "blinds" us from reading social signals. Therefore we can't even tell when someone likes us. But due to societal pressures, guys are "supposed" to somehow figure out which girls like us, because they're less inclined to tell us.

I don't go on about it. That is merely one small aspect of humanity that some of us are "missing" by not having girlfriends.

Part of my problem is that I hardly ever know what to make of the things that people do and it gets frustrating and sometimes I don't want to bother. I sometimes know what certain actions mean, but still read them as mixed because I often find that people do one thing only to mean something else.

I think society still tends to expect men to go after the women, like someone else on this thread said. I don't necessarily expect that, but every now and then I hope for someone to take a little initiative.

And I think what you've said about the women on these boards is funny, because I seem to be the opposite of that.

It isn't fun finding yourself behind your peer group in experience, but having tons of experience isn't at all attractive either, it can make a man unappreciative (I've know guys who just weren't happy with relationships). My priority is to find one I can appreciate now and I'd like to do it right this time. But all the work you put into being relationship material/savvy is a payoff since men who aren't appreciative lose their relationships over time.

I think that might be your problem right there. It's basically a fact that most women prefer clean cut guys. Unless they dig the whole Wolverine style. A helpful tip that you might want to remember is that men shouldn't waste their time growing beards unless they're stacked like Hugh Jackman!