If you love yourself then do you need love from another?

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Last time I looked in the mirror I thought to myself.

Wow MR_BOGAN you are one good looking guy...

So I'm wondering because I am in love with myself then I don't need love from anyone else.

This is my song.

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZoRPohOA8WI&feature=related[/youtube]

Hope I'm not sounding vain or anything like that.

I am very comfortable in who I am, and don't think I need a mate to show that to me. At least in the typical sense.

The strange thing I've developed is that I truly am within that "waking dream" I always refer to. To combat that feeling of drifting through a strange, lucid wake of fantasy and imagination, I need constant reminders that there is something tangeable here for me, and for me that is the touch of a companion. Just with the tip of my fingers lightly grasping their hand, I'm able to feel grounded, and in a way, "exist" within reality. Without it, I'm pretty much always in the clouds.

It's not about "needing" love from someone else... it's about "wanting" the love and affection of another person.

If you love yourself, you're a narcissist... pure and simple...

If you don't love yourself, you will not attract anyone who loves you either. If you do not take care of yourself first, you will have no love or energy to care available to anyone else, in the long run. Two half people do not make a whole. When you are complete within yourself, relationships are FUN!

You can choose to express love, which feels good. Also, when you receive love, it is "icing on the cake." You can have a very healthy relationship when you love yourself.

Nope!

True.You need to love yourself first so that others will love you too... everybody is lovable(i'm sure of that)

I'm with you Bogan! self-suficiency is awesome!

and anyway, *wanting* is much better than *needing* :p

I would so much appreaciate comfort from other ones and i feel better, but i am happy with me and myself.

It depends on how you love yourself. If you love yourself to the point where you are generally happy with who you are and you can make other people feel like you do without thinking you are better than anyone else, then I wouldn't say that's narcissistic. However, if you actually think you are better than everyone else around you and make mention of it, then you are narcissistic.

You people should be bowing down to me, not busy loving yourselves!! !

Most people love themselves just fine. It's a natural thing that is instilled in the mind of a infant where a baby internalizes the adoration and caring of the mother. Something goes wrong in this process with a narcissist and so there is a deep seeded feeling of inadequacy. The rest of their life they spend trying to compensate for this with external means and a pathological false internal monologue. My opinion. Met a few.

You're thinking in absolutes, I've tried this, it only helps when you're backtracking. Loving yourself completely is necessary for survival. It's also the first step to take when dealing with other people.

need? no. want? yes.

getting love from an internal source (yourself) is only 50% of a whole and something that while might keep some from killing themselves, isn't all that satisfying because of the nagging feeling that you might just be in denial about your want from an external source (someone else).

though they say that if you can learn to love yourself, then how can you expect anyone else to.

so i'd say you've gotten yourself a good start at least. just make sure that doesn't mutate into an unhealthy state of narcissism and self-absorbed behavior.

Yes. You need family, or you will tear apart. But you don't need lust-love. Like gf bf type

Hey, that's my theme song!



Copycat.