I offten wondered...

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Perhaps it may be best for myself to just remain single for the remainder of my life. At times I am most content being alone, there are just these frequent moments of lonelyness I get, like when I see a beautiful sunset, or my heart yearns to hold someone when I hear a favorite love song. I know deep inside me is this passion, this desire to have a romance that is far greater than anything has ever been told in all of the greatest tomes ever written. To be able to gaze in the eyes of that special one that shares your feelings of caring, love, and excitment, and to caress her with a touch that you hope the very love from your heart can be felt through.
But then I scare myself into thinking that I will be rejected for unforgiven mistakes and then kicked to the curb with a bleeding wound in my heart that crosses over the deep scar that is still painful to the touch.

You know that saying "nothing ventured, nothing gained." I do believe in that. You have to decide for yourself if you're up for the risk. Could you be rejected at some point in time? Yes, you could. But could it open up a world of new experiences for you? It could do that too.

I've taken the risk and I've been burned (was married, now separated) but there's no way that I would give up some of the experiences I've had and the ones that are in my future. Did I feel like my heart was stomped on and did it rip me to pieces? Absolutely. But I have faith that I"ve got good things that are yet to come. To know you have someone in your corner, someone who gets you and just understands where you're coming from and supports you in where you want to go, that really is priceless.

I guess for me, I want the adventure. I refuse to settle. To each their own.

That would be a wonderful thing to be sure. To have someone who really cares for you. Who's always there for you, and to love you unconditonally.

I think it's key to find someone who compliments your needs. You need someone who will respect the fact that you need space. That's something that's important to you and boundary they need to understand isn't a personal slam. It's just part of who you are.

Probably the real desire is to have someone that can understand that I can get enveloped in an obsession and easily get so absorbed I tend to completely blind myself to social cues from one who may need me at the moment. Not that I don't want to be there when needed, but I don't always realize I am until it's too late. I was married for over 13 years, and now have been alone for 2 years. My ex had bipolar disorder so we clashed alot bigtime over the years of our marriage. Now it seems all the ladies I see around me are either married or have boyfriends. Of course it takes alot of courage for me to ask a lady out on a date, (and that is only to get to know who she is...I have great fear of someone taking advantage of me) and the last time I did she just started seeing a man steady just the previous weekend. Now I have been tending to steriotype all ladies I find attractive as either being married or having boyfriends. So I just keep telling myself "why bother, someone that attractive is already attached to someone for sure?"

I feel that you shouldn't give up cause tell me will that really make you happy. Not even the breath you're drawing right now is guaranteed.

Just keep trying sure I got shut down a couple of times but I also had some girlfriends, just don't give up

There is probably someone out there that needs the love you can give them like you do. I would keep trying to meet people.

You can try to be a little obvious about your attraction to these women. They won't reject you outright for that and will give you indication if they are open to you. Unless I know different or they are wearing a ring I will see how they respond. Most are flattered so I see no harm in it. Who knows the word may get out to a nice woman that you are available and it will save you allot of work.

Doug.
The needs for companionship and reciprocated love are just that.

Needs, not wants but needs.

Just like the needs to eat, drink, and sleep.
Its part of being human.
We all want to give up sometimes, I know I kinda do right now, but honestly then what would you have to look forward to in life?
With no one else to share it with all the recognition, good works, wealth, fame, or whatever you might possibly be able to garner just kind of seems hollow to me.

Who cares if you leave some kind of great legacy after your gone if you had no one to share the journey with?

You will find someone. Its difficult for us but it does happen if we at least try.