Just realized my mistake

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A few months ago, there was this kind of cute girl in my class that said things that were kind of flirty but I thought it was just to make me look better in front of my friends because they pick on me a lot for not knowing about girls. She used to say things like she was gonna go underwear shopping with me and stuff.


One time after lunch, I was walking down the hallway by myself and her and her friend were coming from the opposite direction and her friend starts walking in front of me and then asks me for my number and then I say "Really!?" and then she nods with a smile on her face and then I kinda pause in disbelief and say it again and then she said nevermind or no or something like that and they walk off.



I believe that's how girls do it, by getting their friend to ask for a number, she really did want my number. I feel so stupid. Especially since I've been feeling SOOOOO desperate and depressed and lonely lately I could almost cry

Then take the initiative - jot down your number, and give it to her.


M.

Heh, I wonder if she'd still be interested

What's the worst that happens? She is no longer interested and doesn't call; how is this different than the current situation? Best outcome, she's been waiting for you to make a move and you go on a date. Your decision, ultimately.


M.

Yes, shy girls get their friends to ask for them sometimes. I agree that you should give her your number, who knows what might happen.

She's teasing you...

...or you can take the pessimistic approach, assume that everyone is against you, and never take the chance.

(WX - I would really like to know where you draw such a random and negative conclusion from... if it is personal experience, I am sorry, but that doesn't make it a universal rule where all people are deceptive and mean.)


M.

Dude. I get you are like 50 and you are a moderator and all, but you have a rather broad view on things and you don't understand highschool girls.

I've had a VERY similar experience as this. The girl flirted with me, hugged me, touched me, hell invited to drive me home 400 miles, but she had no interest in me. She thought my inexperience and awkwardness was "adorable", and I have the feeling the same is being said here. He can take a chance, yes but more times than not a girl will not act like this towards a guy she likes, more a guy she just thinks it is cute to mess with.

Nice presumption, but erroneous. I am 32, and part of my work is teaching music at the high school level; while I am no longer a teen, I do believe I have a better basis than some in where I am drawing my inferences.

In high school, sophomore year, I had a similar experience; in my chemistry class, a girl asked me to a school dance. I didn't answer her because I thought it was a joke, that she was teasing me. She was serious, and my rejection hurt her a lot. We became friends in time, but an opportunity was then lost because I assumed the worst instead of taking a chance, especially one whose consequences are relatively non-existent compared to the rewards.


M.

I have to step in here and offer some perspective. I am 40+, and can look back on high school with the perspective that comes with having graduated long before most current high school students were born.

No matter what, high school is usually a difficult, frustrating time for Aspies. It was very difficult for me socially. To say disasters were frequent would be an understatement. Given my social limits and impairments, I did not even try to date anyone. And I was teased in many of the ways described in this thread.

But, long after graduation I found out through a combination of coincidence and circumstance that there were girls who were genuinely interested in me during that period. They were shy, and would not have approached me, and might have panicked if I approached them directly (I was a nerd of nerds, everything from computer club geek to D&D freak).

So despite the odds seeming dim (to some at least), I say go for it. From my perspective, you have nothing to lose. I look back on high school the way I look back on college or graduate school. I made a lot of mistakes, missed a lot of opportunities, and so urge anyone who has enough courage or conviction to date to do so.