What Do You Like About Women?

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Frm these forums it seems like you guys really don't like many personality traits of women. I'm not offended because you are speaking the truth whetehr you like them or not. Some people dont like how women think everything is creepy, and some people dont care.
How about you guys make a list of the stuff you like about women and then the stuff you don't. If you have a longer list of stuff you don't, it doesn't make you a sexist because you are judging from personality traits. It just means that you don't like the ways of many women.
Personlly, I believe so many guys like women for their beauty and femininity, but everything else they seem to hate about them. Guys say their too hard to understand, want too much, annoying, bitchy, and so forth. Even girls, and aspie girls say they get along better with men than with women. What is it about women that makes so many run away, yet come so close?
what is it that you guys like so much about women, because something has got you hooked, and its sure as hell not their personality.

i guess i sortof overlook personality as a whole :S im not even sure what it means. i like humor and a cheeky attitude to life. a critical mindset etc. if that matches w good looks and all, then that could be a woman of interest.
not that ill run for it tho. for obvious reasons

Mistrust in the human species, a strict but caring attitude, going in training clothes, not that skirt stuf, it seems to old fashion and boring for me.



This type of clothing.

Well what I like most about women is that they're nice people and usually easy to get along with (even easier than some men I know)... I think this is due to the social grace that many women have that men (especially AS men) lack, which can be used to smooth out any social interaction. On the other hand, this social capability has a major drawback, in that almost every "user" type I have met (the type of person that makes everyone else do things for them) has been a woman...

what i like about "my" women is that she is also an AS and as such doesn't have the stereotypical personality traits of most women,
she has the beauty and the body of a woman but other than that she is just a good person and not much different from me in her choices or interests or general altitude toward life

May have to make several attempts to complete it.
May be more able to tell you that stuff about "my" woman more easily than y'all as a generalized whole.
And may most likely get there in a roundabout way.


Absolutely correct. They are so very different from me/men - they are softness and curves where we are solidness and angles. A woman smiling is one of the most beautiful things there is.

In contrast to the above, my wife Kathy isn't a beauty queen and is slightly tomboyish. Actually it is personalities and interests where we connect a lot. And yeah, that thing about "soul mates" is absolutely true for us.

A lot of places I've worked most of the staff has been women. Have worked retail where most of the customers were women.
From that have seen that their, oh, call it, "operating system", "OS", is way different from us guys.
And I think that's where at least some of the comes from.

On the "too hard to understand" thing - here's an example of a difference I had to learn.
Kathy called me earlier today, she was having a really difficult day, told me what was going on, and how she felt about it. My "primal guy urge" was to suggest how situations might be fixed and other things to do about them. That's not what she needed or wanted - she wanted/needed me to know how her day was going and that how she was doing was important to her husband.
So, I listened and occasionally asked for more about how she felt or what she thought on something, that showed her I cared, and that was really all she was wanting/needing.
At end of phone call she felt relief and refreshed and was ready to get back to dealing with problems & people.

Women who live for daytime drama television turn me off.
Women like Kathy who will help clue me in to how she is different from us guys turn me on.

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Hmm I've been observing something pretty interesting. It seems that the most optimistic Aspie men are the older ones. You all seem to have had relationships, or have a wife or gf. As where the younger aspie guys have trouble. Could this be because it's hard to fins an understanding woman, and women become more understanding as we get older?

I really can't stand many women, or at least I can't stand to be around them for an extended period of time. Much less the many extended periods of time needed in a relationships.

I like women because they are like me, but have female parts.

Probably.
Wanna bet at least some of us guys might become more understanding as we get older?

There were a good number of years during my 20s I didn't even try to date, the prevailing personalities and attitudes of women my age were not appealing. That was deeply frustrating and discouraging. It was, 'come on women, you are making yourselves unattractive and unappealing and you aren't seeing it'

At that time was still 20 years away from knowing anything about Aspergers: how much of a factor it was, if any, is probably undeterminable anyway.


That, assuming I'm understanding where you're going here, seems to be universally true with or without Aspergers from what I've seen and read. It takes a while to realize that women aren't men, meaning they live by a whole different set of thoughts and senses.
There's also a certain sense of pressure that often eases with age

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Aside from being generally attracted to women... I've always found them to be more accepting, more open, and more accessible. Also less critical of the fact I'm not typically "laddish". I find as I get older I'm finding more men who are accepting, too.

But I like the differences in women, especially in personalities, and the things I can learn from them. The friendships I have with women are stronger, deeper, and more emotional. And I find that, with a select few, I can "read" them like NTs take for granted - perhaps through knowing them so well. (I hope to see if that's true with others in future.)

There are still a few who are dislikeable (as individuals) for various reasons, but the same is true of men.

what do u mean by "understanding woman" ?
the kind who listen,support or tolerates your "traits" ?
i never cared for such a person
love is the most complicated and simple subject in our life
young people tend to know nothing about themselves or life or anything else and the less they know the more sure they are of themselves
young love is self centered and narcissistic and boring as hell,at least most of the time
this is true for both male and female
to really touch another human being u have to complete some journeys first
u need to fo through a lot of changes before i can even get close to know yourself or another person

Things I like:

1. Loving and caring personality
2. Fine motor skills
3. Good fashion sense
4. Cuteness (and cutesiness)
5. Sensitivity to the needs of others
6. Affectionate personality
7. Moral sense
8. Social intelligence
9. Standards
10. You are just plain beautiful.

Things I don't like:

1. Use of vague terms to describe what it is you don't want us to do (occasionally)
2. Deceptiveness (occasionally)
3. Lack of empathy (occasionally).

How women have the right curves to wear bell-bottoms, no matter what their size is. They're also more likely to give hugs, than men are. :O)

Jeez, everything. I was pretty much raised by women, seeing as how my older sister was always my best of friends, and my mom raised us three kids single-handedly. My mom's pretty amazing, I doubt there's a fraction of our species, male or otherwise, that could do what she's managed to.

My friends at school in the past were always girls, without a doubt. Never had a steady male friend. And yes, I'm straight and all, but there's no question that I've soaked up a good deal of what many would consider the "female experience." It's been sort of a gift, seeing how I do so well with the fairer sex in regards to friendships and romantics. Being around women my whole life has contributed to that comfort.

There is something called testosterone overload. Women ballance that out. you can talk with them about stuff you can't talk to guys about.

Most younger women are interesting, but become more boring over time. (no, I'm not being a perv, has nothing to do with looks). Once a woman has kids, a house, a job, etc.. she becomes a nag. Domestication ruins women. Most older/grown women are boring as hell. Esp the "soccer mom" types. Oooh. look, I saved 3 buck on diapers at the piggly wiggly. AHHHHHHHRRRRGGGG.

Of course, as long as you can find a girl can qote lyrics from Suicidal Tendancies, Nine Inch Nails, or the Blood Hound Gang, your in for a treat.

in my experience, having a gf simply was more VITAL when i was young, as it seems w many here. they are very focused on the idea of missing out on something, and it fills their mind completely.

now, much later, ive been a little around, luckier than most aspies i guess and i dont have that feeling of missing out, so my attitude towards the topic is more relaxed

i still look for basically the same traits then and now, sharp humor, sharp mind, etc, only... THEN i would actively look around, wait, get frustrated and hate my life, now im simply not looking.