Why they liked me...

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I have recently discovered something that upsets and intrigues me. I have been in 5 relationships over the past 3 years. Now that the fifth is over, I have realized something startling. All my girlfriends have started out with the same attitude, they liked me because I was knowledgeable and had an interesting vocabulary of ideas. What I have failed to realize until now is that after a few weeks, they all get bored. Thanks to the input of some close friends, I learned that most people don’t like being bombarded with information. This input came after my second relationship ended; and I must say that I did try to take their advice…

It seems, though, that I cannot fully grasp the things women want… My friends tell me they have the same problem, but none of them have AS; yet, they both have held relationships for over two years. I believe they are either hypocrites or (more likely) better at figuring out what people want.

I have wondered what it would be like to date a person with AS. However, I have never met a woman with AS. I’m not implying that anyone reply with some desire to date me, I do not desire to meet a girl on the internet. All I want to know is this, does anyone else have a similar problem? I just want to have a relationship that lasts more than a few weeks!

Maybe they felt like you were talking at them instead of to them. It's something we always need to be aware of. Maybe you were doing all of the talking and none of the listening. That's just a guess. Who knows?

I have the same problem! I, unfortunately, don't get to the stage where relationships are even a possibility. Maybe you haven't met the right person yet. Be attentive to the other person's needs, and really show them that you're listening, and I'm sure things will go well. Best of luck!

I think my problem is my flat affect. I watch other women and they really know how to play the coquette even after the relationship is established. I am congenitally incapable of flirting.

Women like attention. They want you to listen to them and be interested in what they say. If they were interested in you at first, it's probably because you were paying attention to them while telling them information. Later, things probably didn't progress to where you were asking about them or moving on to other things. That's probably why they got bored.

A few texts a day or an email a day can do wonders. All you have to do is ask about her day and let her tell you.