DAMNIT!

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*Looks back at past week*...DAMNIT! More later...

i like DAMMIT better. Flows better.

What happened? o_O

So why DAMNIT!! !

I listen to Radiohead when I'm depressed. Thom Yorke sounds so miserable you can't help but feel better for yourself.

OK, I've recovered some. Now I can tell my terrible story of doom.

So I've been pretty good friends with this girl since the school year started. She's an immature freshman(9th), and I'm a senior (12th). That alone is socially unacceptable for relationships, but not illegal. She's a natural flirt, and is the most social talkative person I have ever met. And she's hot. Really hot. WOW OMG WTF hot. I've asked her out a few times, and she always says no. I'm usually subtle about it, but I went a bit to far on Monday. I basically kept asking her out to a concert online, and she kept saying she's too busy. She then goes on about how busy her life is and how she schedules basically everything before everything. She's absurdly social, but I'm still not buying it. Here's where it gets crazy. I asked her, that if she has all her life scheduled then how does she have time for dating? Her response...date who? "..." was probably the best response I could give. She tehn went on about why she's not going to date me, the list is complete crap in my opinion. While most of it is true, it seems irrelevant. Seeing as how I normally don't think about other people's opinions on my life, I make a rebuttle for every reason. She listed them all, then I repied to each number.

1. b/c thats creepy***so what?
2. ur ben***so?
3. i'm not interested***you hardly know me
4. i'm busy***you cant change that?
5. i don't like u***i act a lot different when not around otehr people
6. ur not my type***"type" is BS it just limits ur options
7. ur a senior***so?
8. that would jsut be weird***aren't we both pretty weird already?

She got pissed and told me to stop. I said fine, and tehn she logged off. I felt like I've been lead on for the longest time, and still do. She kind of avoided me until today. We get along great and I still don't see why she won't date me. We're back to square one today, it's almost as if it never happened. Still might try to get the real reason out of her, and I might not let go for a while. She's gone from obsession, to friend, to interest, and now whatever. I was really crushed by all this, and still am. Just not as bad as I usually am. After it all happened, my emotional state turned to mush. I felt dizzy and light-headed, and my mind went completely blank. All my music felt terrible to me, except for...Talking Heads. It didn't feel good, but it somehow added to the weird state I was in. Spacing out to the extreme.

Hmm...another story. Before all that, I was talking with a friend about this other girl I like. He offered to get her in a room alone wtih me so I could ask her out. I declined, because that would be mean and really creepy. He revealed to me that she later told her about that conversation, and that she said she'd never think about going out with me. And that would expalin why she's been treating me different lately, which went from friendly to just generallly ignoring me. That bothered me too.

Aha! Another story. I was talking with another friend of mine online. We were discussing something, and our views were completely opposite on almost everything. Now, when I argue something, I get really logical about it. I'm not sure what aggrivated her, but she evatually got real mad and cussed me out and then logged off. She regrets it all now, but it definitely hurt our friendship some. I think she's over it now, I'm no longer cut off.

My life is crazy again, and I think this one other girl keeps flirting with me. I should try flipping a coin this time to see if it's flrty-ness or frinedliness, rather than guessing! I should wear a sign warning people of my social ineptitude. Oh well, at least I know my sense of humor is attractive.

Well, if this is any consolation, she (the 9th grader) probably feels horrible now.

I think I'm also having trouble telling the difference between flirting and friendliness. I think for some people the two are very similar to each other, almost the same even, which doesn't make life any easier!

No, she said she thought she had made it obvious already that she wasn't interested. There where times where I felt she was majorly flirting with me, but I guess not?

When that happens, don't ask her out again. If a girl/woman says no once, that's it, don't face rejection anymore by asking again. If she is interested in you she'll say yes the first time. Why keep asking the same person out if they keep saying no?

I'm persistent, and think otherwise about rejection. And the other times I might of not made it clear I intended it to be a date, but I did this time.

I agree. Ask once, if she says no, move on. You know what a great person you are if she took the time. "Sorry babe, you snooze, you lose." There was a bumper sticker I used to see a lot in the 70's. It was a cartoon rabbit running with the caption "So many women, so little time." Eventually, one will say yes. Then your trouble will REALLY start

Yeah, I also agree with this. She would have said yes the first time if she was interested at all. Just be glad that at least you two have got a pretty good friendship going and have everything worked out. I'm sorry to hear about the rejection, but there are plenty of other fish in the sea. It may be hard, but you'll eventually get over it, don't worry!

Also, you probably should go for someone more within your age group (sophomore and above). With you being a senior and her a freshman, that could cause a whole lot of problems for you later on down the line.

Yep, no means no.

There's someone out there for you who's far better suited and she'll say yes. It's just a matter of time.