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capricasix
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09 Mar 2014, 3:24 pm

Alright. I'm lost. I have huge financial issues, family is out, Mom is the only one who help and she went to the ER last week with memory loss due to stress. Wasn't hable to drive her home causes father doesn't aknowledge or care for my existence.
Mr Six, which is unemployed, engaged the subject of us being a couple with no social peers, should worry about the fact of having no social life. Pointed as well it's not because of who we are, it's a fact of life: as we don't have children we need those bonds.
I can't handle this atm, so I walked away from the conversation.
Any advice?



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09 Mar 2014, 3:43 pm

I have absolutely no idea what you are trying to say or what you are looking for advice on from your post. All I understood is that your mom is under a lot of stress and you have a strained relationship with your father.



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09 Mar 2014, 3:54 pm

if you are implying mrsix wants a relationship that excludes you from any social contact I would say run away from him very fast


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09 Mar 2014, 4:14 pm

capricasix wrote:
Alright. I'm lost. I have huge financial issues, family is out, Mom is the only one who help and she went to the ER last week with memory loss due to stress. Wasn't hable to drive her home causes father doesn't aknowledge or care for my existence.
Mr Six, which is unemployed, engaged the subject of us being a couple with no social peers, should worry about the fact of having no social life. Pointed as well it's not because of who we are, it's a fact of life: as we don't have children we need those bonds.
I can't handle this atm, so I walked away from the conversation.
Any advice?


Break it down in smaller chunks and prioritise. I think Mr Six may like to have more of a social life and if you had friends they could be a support group. Not everyone has kids and not all people with kids insist on socialising only with other parents but it does often work out that way. Maybe it's time to try and meet some other people, maybe join a hobby club or something? a) lets you forget about your troubles for an hour a week or something and b) maybe you will meet some people you can socialise with

However, financial issues are obviously the first thing so suggest to Mr Six to get a job and that way he can meet new people as well.

Also, if you have care and support services in your area, contact them to see if they can help with finances.

Try and not rely on family as they clearly don't want to be there for you.



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10 Mar 2014, 4:43 am

Stargazer43 wrote:
I have absolutely no idea what you are trying to say or what you are looking for advice on from your post. All I understood is that your mom is under a lot of stress and you have a strained relationship with your father.


You're right. Sorry about that.
Forgot taking a deep breath before starting to write.

Btw, I have no relationship with my father. He banished me.



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10 Mar 2014, 4:46 am

salamandaqwerty wrote:
if you are implying mrsix wants a relationship that excludes you from any social contact I would say run away from him very fast


Nop. I mean he's focused on the fact we don't have social life. I feel we/I've got enough trouble already and don't feel like adding that to the cocktail.



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10 Mar 2014, 4:59 am

leafplant wrote:
capricasix wrote:
Alright. I'm lost. I have huge financial issues, family is out, Mom is the only one who help and she went to the ER last week with memory loss due to stress. Wasn't able to drive her home causes father doesn't aknowledge or care for my existence.
Mr Six, which is unemployed, engaged the subject of us being a couple with no social peers, should worry about the fact of having no social life. Pointed as well it's not because of who we are, it's a fact of life: as we don't have children we need those bonds.
I can't handle this atm, so I walked away from the conversation.
Any advice?


Break it down in smaller chunks and prioritise. I think Mr Six may like to have more of a social life and if you had friends they could be a support group. Not everyone has kids and not all people with kids insist on socialising only with other parents but it does often work out that way. Maybe it's time to try and meet some other people, maybe join a hobby club or something? a) lets you forget about your troubles for an hour a week or something and b) maybe you will meet some people you can socialise with

However, financial issues are obviously the first thing so suggest to Mr Six to get a job and that way he can meet new people as well.

Also, if you have care and support services in your area, contact them to see if they can help with finances.

Try and not rely on family as they clearly don't want to be there for you.


leafplant,

Thank you for the clear POV!

Regarding family, you're right. Nonetheless I am in no position to break all relations as we depend on my Mom. No Mom, no food.
Regarding Mr Six, I dunno if I sounded like he doesn't want to work. The things is - there are no jobs.
Regarding social life, there are no support groups for these issues, of any kind. One of the reasons I joined here. It's not easy to get things going to go out, so chances to get together with people are less.

What I tried to make clear to Mr Six is: I have enough to worry about, the least of my concerns is the social part. He says there is no point going through life if we don't have that part. As human beings. I wish less things on my shoulders and see: he's right, to a point, but now it's not the time to push me with that.