Myers-Brigg and dating

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Do you think you have to have the same Myers-Brigg personality to be compatable in a sexual relationship or have you been able to make it work out?


Im INTJ and I find I often dont get on with those who are sensing, feeling perceiveing. I find they are not direct enough and that I annoy and upset them, they often find me overwhelming and I make them uncomfortable and stressed. This makes me feel bad as no one wants to be viewed in that way.

People with INTJ character tend to understand me better and see more of my good qualities, we tend to meet each others needs better and annoy each other less. But obviously they are hard to come by and may be uncompatable with oneself on other features such as values and beliefs and interests.

What are your opinions on personality and dating?

I am INFP and I actually feel relieved to be around someone who is direct. I don't know if this is Myers-Briggs related or not. It seems counter-intuitive. I consistently test INFP ( even many years ago when I took a psych 101 class). I don't like it when people are condescending in their directness though.

My sister is INFP and she does like directness too, but is less confrontational than me and gets upset/distressed at me making scientific and political discussions with her. She tends to like things very calm and peaceful and finds my drive and passion stressful. On my part I find her quite hard to read and a bit boring (lol). I find it hard to talk to her as she wont engage in discussions. However my mum who is also INTJ but does not have aspergers gets on with my sister very well so I think my mums ability to read socially compensates for her more discursive character.

I haven't really given it much thought.

I'm an ENFP by the way.

My boyfriend and I are both INTP and our relationship is great. I don't know if it's a requirement to be the same personality type, but I was kind of relieved when he told me that he always tested as INTP as well once when I posted a blog about Myers-Briggs once. I just like being around people who are similar to me.

It might not always be good to be the same personality type though, since both partners might have the same weaknesses as each other or something.

If your an E, do you find you are energised by social contact then? Do you like talking on the phone and do you have lots of friends?

your very lucky to have met someone with the same personality which you get on really well with.

Do you also have the same values and interests? or does the same personality make up for other differences?

I would think if people had the same weaknesses they would probably be sympathetic and tollerant with them in a partner.

Talking on the phone: Yes
Lots of friends: No

well, according to what I read about INTP (my type) my perfect match would be a ENTJ. I guess it might be accurate but I really don't care, I'm not gonna be like those maniacs who ask about zodiac sign on the first date lol.

I never thought of the MBTI that way. I've done a couple, for work reasons, and all I found out is what I knew already. I'm extremely introverted (generally, though there are certain people and settings where I am able to be more extroverted), and most of my other values are borderline and can come out either way.

Hmm. MBTI-based dating. Might be an internet business in that...

The MBTI is not true to reality and does not deserve any serious consideration. I myself find I get different results depending on my mood.

Being an E also means that you tend to focus your energy outwards instead of inwards, such as paying more attention to your surroundings and voicing thoughts aloud, and liking to be in an active environment. You don't necessarily have to be a socialite surrounded by friends to be an E, and being an I doesn't mean you are friendless and hate talking to people.

I have an aquaintence diagnosed with Asperger's and I would definitely call him an E, because he doesn't seem to spend so much time in his own head as he does paying attention to what's going on and flitting between groups of acquaintences. He seems to get bored if there isn't anything going on in our little group.

That being said...I don't think you'd have to have the same MBTI type as someone to successively date. My stepfather is an ESFJ and my mom is....IsomethingsomethingP. It depends on your partner's willingness to accept and appreciate your differences (and your willingness to accept theirs). The differences might be part of the attraction, after all.

I agree Eto

interestingly I often get E on my test if Ive been drinking coffee.

i have no idea what my persoanlity type is. i don't beleive i've ever taken that test. and now i wonder where i would take it.

here you go

http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt67764.html

The test keeps giving me different answers every time i take it. The most common is ISTP, but I also get INTP, INTJ, INFP, and there was the one time I got a ENTP (which is pretty much the only time I ever got an E, so I usually discount that attempt at the quiz)...

But overall, I've never really been able to nail down a specific type other than the I...