Do you have difficulty connecting with the opposite sex?

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There have been times that I know a woman has had a romantic interest in me (based on sometimes what others have told me, and other ways as well), but when I was around the person I never got that feeling from the person.

Have any of you ever had that type of experience with someone of the opposite sex?

Any tips on figuring something like this out?

Last edited by KevinLA on 05 Oct 2009, 10:03 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Heh, I don't know anyone that's had a romantic interest in me. At least, not that I was aware of.

I have been told that I connect well with women, and they seem to always want to be friends (and actually be friends, not just saying it to get rid of me)... the problem is that none of them want me to be their boyfriend...

I'm generally fine at connecting with the opposite gender when there's no romance involved. When it comes to relationships I'm so hopeless I'd just as soon take the ease of isolation.

Many women - or rather people - are shy, and/or are intimidated by those they are attracted to. As a result you may see some negative reactions like closed posture which you may interpret as "stay off" signs, when actually they're symptomatic of their interest. As far as I'm aware there is no definitive answer in telling the difference between someone who is interested and not very good at communicating this and someone who is not interested; sometimes the two are unfortunately indistinguishable. I've read some anecdotal advice on this, for example if he/she looks at you periodically then that's reportedly a sign of interest.

If you know this person has social anxiety or is on the autistic spectrum, that may give additional perspective on why they may come across as not being interested when actually they are.

100% agree with this.

I'm just going to respond to your threads title >_>

Well it deppends, if it's those "preppy" girls, or people who think to higly of themselfs or who dont respect others, then yeah.
If it is those who are "different" and i share some interests with, it's rather easy cause we can talk about stuff.

Example, my new class, everyone is different there, there are no "preppy" girls, so we all kinda come from a different "sub-culture"'ish thing and etc.
thats easy then, if it's on a friend level of course, when it's love, i suck 100%

When you see Tias trying to be cool, who ya' gonna call? Elmo and Emos Insurance Co.

I get too nervous around the opposite sex so bad that I start talking with run-on sentences. Basically to answer the question, yeppers.

I don't really connect well at all with women. It's not that I'm shy or afraid it's just that in general, I have nothing to talk about. Pretty much all of my friends and socializing is based around my hobbies and interests and in general, my hobbies and interests only attract other guys which doesn't give me opportunities to interact with women.

When women give you gas, watch her pump your gas.

Well, since you're here, I have no problem assuming you're 'different' and aren't 100% able to pick up the cues

Don't fret it. Trust yourself, and if you're not sure then listen to what others are saying.



Yes, a few times. I really don't pick up on the attraction a lot of time and only notice (okay, I don't notice and have to be hit with a 2x4) when it's pointed out.



It's so much easier when assertive women make their intents clear. Failing that, friends and others pointing it out help.

Failing that... You're going to need to read her body languange and pay attention to the overt signs (gah, I hate saying this but go look up indicators-of-interest).

If you're confident enough, then ask! She'll either be taken aback, avert her gaze or not answer.

I have alot of anxiety around women, and I don know how to connect or if I've connected.

If you're talking to them and they're not using monosyllabic answers, you've connected.

They walk away, they use one word answers, they don't look in your direction == move on.

I work pretty well with the opposite sex, unless I'm in a sexual relationship with her.

I have two female friends. One that works (I can't say because it's secret) with a very respectable job, she's married and she says she's the nerdy kind. We work absolutely wonderful together. The other one is from a very wealthy engineering family, she's going to the royal military-"thingy" and has had an offer to join the Royal College of Music. In theory, I would not work well with anyone of these two, but I do.

I've had an online friend from Germany as well, but we lost the contact due to life changing events that lead her to a better place. Time went by, and we just stopped talking to each other. A natural event, I'd say.

I may also find them very attractive, but that doesn't matter to me. I value the friendship too much to actually risk messing it up.

Also, I have the knowledge of my past failures. Wisdom helps a lot.

I'm probably the kind of guy women like when they're feeling very lonely and/or sad. That sounds a little bit sad, but it's more of a comforting thought to me. And if that's what I'm needed for, well, at least it's for a good cause.

I would say that I have more problems finding a girlfriend now that I don't drink much. Alcohol was a good confidence builder. Also, at my age, and newly single, released from a bad marriage, I find that a lot of the women have hung it up and quit as far as finding love. Either they resign themselves to a life of gossiping with girlfriends, TV, and afternoon naps, or else they stay in a loveless marriage for the security.
I think that middle-aged women are trained to view romance as a lot of work. You're not supposed to get your hand into her pants until she's talked your ear off for weeks, and had you pass all type of little tests.