how is it possible to tell if someone likes you or not?

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i always get this wrong. i always think that guys like me, but they don't. how do you tell? is there a way to tell? i have no idea about this. it's like how many more times can i be wrong about this. there's no more times left to get it wrong. i thought my professor liked me, but it seems like he didn't. i went to see him lot and i called his office a lot about school. im almost a 20 year old female, but i've never dated before and i just had my first time being out of home late at night with some people a few weeks ago

Maybe you need to spend more time hanging out with friends and observing. They may be able to help you out with learning how to tell too.

The easiest way to tell is if a guy is always defending someone and excusing what they do or caring when people say something negative about her. Usually he does this when she isn't around. When she is around, he talks to her and flirts with her. He wants to spend time with her.
If he doesn't like her, he will insult her, run from her, glare at her, ignore her.

if they tell you to f*** **f, that might be a clue that they dont like you.

BUT in NT world, it could simply mean something like 'you are exaggerating a bit and would you like to revise your statement'

I generally find that if everyone moves away when you join a group, without saying goodbye, this is probably a good sign that they dont like you.

Of course I dont get my chance to test this out............

It's conceivable that someone could like you, but have reasons to not pursue you, such as being in a relationship. That could account for some of your misreadings. Body language can be researched if you care to put in the effort.
I don't know...

It's conceivable that someone could like you, but have reasons to not pursue you, such as being in a relationship. That could account for some of your misreadings. Body language can be researched if you care to put in the effort.
I don't know...

I have one or two NT's I'm close to tell me if they think a girl likes me. I also look for more obvious signs. In one case, a gril kept looking and smiling at me while we were in a group conversation.

You are attracted to your proffessor. Knowing whether he is attracted to you or not is pretty much a moot point because he is almost certainly contractually forbidden to date you or in any way act on an attraction. So if he is attracted to you in return you will be getting mixed messages because he is obligated to not act on or reveal that attraction or he will (most likely) be fired. Or maybe he's not attracted in return. In either case, a relationship with your proffessor can't happen since he could lose his job over it.

In the case of a date-able peer, if you are unsure how to tell if he's attracted to you, ask an NT girl. She can figure it out by observing the both of you.

There is no effective procedure (at least not that anyone is aware of) of determining whether someone fancies you. There are anecdotal notions but nothing more.

Men who you see in a regular basis at work or in class may not be as forward about their attraction because they know if they mess up they'll have to put up with you (and you with them) until one or both of you leaves. They are a captive audience to you (and you are a captive audience to them) which changes the courtship dynamic greatly.

Just thought I should point out that if a guy insults you to your face in a friendly, jokey sort of way it might mean that he does like you. It's confusing.

Gee, I'm screwed then. There have probably been tons of girls who I've passed then because of that.

This may seem a bit overly simplistic, but why beat around the bush...why not just ask?

i phoned the school and they said it's ok to date as long as im not his student.

actually insulting & ignoring aren't necessarily signs of dislike. just like some girls, some guys have also been known to try that psychological backwards BS experimentally.

hell, and there's some girls i like that i've just fallen into a friend zone with, but i poke fun at them all the time, nothing real hurtful though, just like making fun of in a friendly way. and if she looks like she's ignoring me i'll try ignoring her too, not that it works, it just makes a person feel better to themselves to give seemingly standoffish people a little of that in return. you can like someone and be frustrated at their blissful ignorance of the fact at the same time.

so maybe try looking for the ones who seem to particularly avoid you too? we're not all bold cassanovas sillypants.

but that's just another way to look at it, just throwing that out there for speculation.

The biggest tip off is radiance, if your seeing such positive emotion pouring at you out of her eyes that you feel like you need to put welding goggles on to look at her - she's highbeaming the heck out of you. Once you know the feel of that and what that is, everything else is usually a distillation of that - particularly when you know what it looks like when someone is doing that and trying to make every effort not to look at you.

For whatever reason, while I can see it from a mile away usually, the biggest question has always been what on earth to do with it. I think I've just figured over time that if its a good fit personalitywise such issues really aren't a problem because they won't take conversation as a sign of rejection (a lot of times I've noticed that many girls who have beame real hard at me don't want down to earth conversation at that point or can't adapt out of it, if they were coworkers in the past I found a more distinct problem - they couldn't relate to me much at all, the behavior is not always a sign that they think verbal communication would fail abysmally, they may be right though, but if they're feeling something and they don't want to bottle it up or kick themselves for not showing it - flirting is usually the best way they can at least say they to themselves that the had the guts to try).

Your guess is as good as mine. I can't tell who really likes me either, hence why I have no real friends. There's been people from time to time who treat me nicely but it never lasts. There's another person recently who treated me real nice and practically had a crush on me and then she just stopped talking to me just like that for no reason, I'm so sick of that charade. I suppose if someone really likes you deep,down, they will like you regardless and they will be completely honest with you. They will never be phonies.