My friends love story is really bothering me?

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Normally my whenever my mates have somebody I don't normally get jealous or anything... normally i'm happy for them.
But for some reason, this girl i know who is also autistic like me loves this other boy and the boy asked him out, I don't understand why it seems to be upsetting me, depressing me and bothering me? Plus I went out with her in the past and it didn't go so well. Does that mean I still have feelings for her?

The boy on the other hand is another good friend of mine but at the same time i feel angry at him like hes my enemy and I don't want to feel that way anymore? any solutions?

ummmmm, yeahhhh
it sorta sounds like you like her but haven't really acknowledged it to yourself.
whether for conscious or subconscious reasons, idk.
but i think you should think on it some more and decide how it is, but be honest with yourself and don't necessarily imagine feelings into place if they're not there just because i'm saying there might be if there isn't.
that's the problem with the power of suggestion. people give out possible explanations and sometimes people tend to grasp at them like liferafts for lack of any other explanation.
because people naturally feel need of an explanation and fear the lost feeling of not having one. *sigh*

but yeah, i think you like her, just my opinion though. investigate that maybe?

I don't think you really like her -- I think you like the idea of wanting to like her.
Perhaps you are more upset that your friend is possibly having a relationship with her. Like he is succeeding where you failed. But it is not a competition. It is just a matter of if you click.

I don't think you really like her -- I think you like the idea of wanting to like her.
Perhaps you are more upset that your friend is possibly having a relationship with her. Like he is succeeding where you failed. But it is not a competition. It is just a matter of if you click.

I actually really like her thats the thing.... i've always been telling her but she doesn't seem to get it... oh well... it was too late... I'm guessing i have to move on like a true man although its gonna be alot harder for me to get a girl

well good luck man. i'm sure you'll find someone.

some things in life come unexpected, some nice, some decidedly not so, but it's learning to accept such things regardless of which type that help us grow up and face the world.

I say look for other people and add more girls to your life so this friend of yours dosen't haunt your mind that often.

I feel like that any time any guys around me get pretty much any attention from women.

Lol I was going to do that... as i mentioned in one of the previous discussions about approaching girls, that I find to hard to approach girls and i either end up doing something to creep them out i dont know why plus i do come across as shy...

I'm inclined to agree with Sufi

Here's my slant: You don't necessarily have feelings towards her, but more of a territorial instinct kicking in. It didn't work out for whatever reason, and if you found someone, you couldn't care less. Even if you're single, the inclination you have towards her isn't that extreme.

But introduce another male, and suddenly biology kicks in.



Technically, he is. He's a competing male for an available female. But think you are higher up the totem pole, he's crappy, you're better, etc. It'll help. Don't play the game of "Oh, I hope you two find happiness" because it's not true and will grind you down.

Don't like it. Don't accept it. Be grumpy when you're confronted with it. But rationalize you're better than they are (her loss, he sucks)

That basically sounds alot like him... DEFINILATELY the competing part sounds like him I decided to not let it bother me and sort of stick with your advice.

Now it turns out that these two didn't get on with each other, now they're not talking to each other at all and yet they both are crying their eyes out over it... and both are depressed...

I now sort of found out that the girl was the one that was doing all the playing...