How to tell if a woman is interested

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I thought this may be useful for men trying to find out what women are attracted to them.

Have you noticed that when you're around people you feel attracted to you feel different? Well I read people are supposed to give off body language when they feel attracted to others versus not, even if some people are more or less than others. I found out there was a peer-review study where they had hidden cameras at a singles event. They found most of the time when the men asked women on dates, the women sent the men subtle body language hints (often subconscious) beforehand. Most of the time the men were rejected the women didn't give off any signals. Also, the women who sent out more signals were more likely to be asked, and overall were more likely to send signals in situations where it was appropriate to flirt. Apparently there are other peer-review studies where they found similar results.

Then I came across some body language signals that I think may be useful to know. I heard you're supposed to look for patterns among them (multiple types) and within the context of the situation, rather than just seeing one body language signal and freaking out. It also doesn't guarantee but instead is supposed to be a powerful tool, since it makes sense to not miss out on opportunities by being oblivious that there are women indeed interested while at the same time blowing your confidence by trying with those who don't have interest.


I read about some body language that is often supposed to be more done without thinking than intentional, and even sometimes very brief. Each one is not supposed to apply to all women but instead covers many kinds of body language:

She may sit up straight/perk up when the man walks into the room, perhaps all of a sudden shoulders back and chest out. Or in some situations she may try an attractive pose. If two women are talking to each other and young, they may peek at the man and giggle or might even cuddle with each other and point. Older women may whisper to each other in a more sophisticated way.

A woman feeling attracted to a man may look "down and away" and then within the next minute look back at the man, as opposed to looking to the side or up and away (up and away means "not interested" and to the side is a maybe or maybe not). She may peek at the man over a book or something else she's looking at. She may give him repeated sidelong glances.

When she notices the man, she may adjust her clothing or remove some like she thinks its warm in the room. She may let a shoe dangle on her foot or toes, which apparently isn't supposed to be as likely around a man she doesn't care about. She may try to subtly show off with her legs, perhaps pull her skirt up to show more leg or some other way to draw attention with them. She may raise an arm, putting her hand behind her head, and flash her underarm.

We all have personal space zones, and she may stand or sit closer than one normally would. Or if not her body, she may do it with a limb or object she's using. She may try to innocently touch the man, maybe the hand or arm. Or if she can't do that she may try to lean toward him and into his personal space.

She may tug or play with the jewelry she's wearing. She may rest her head on her knuckles with her palm facing toward the man rather than toward herself. She may try to expose her neck, or pull her hair aside in the process. She may primp in front of the guy. She may use a hand to caress herself while the guy's watching. She may play with her hair.

If she's hanging out with the man, she may act goofy. She may also do a shoulder scrunch, acting like a little girl. She may try copying the man's body movements; when he moves to drink with one hand, she may try to mirror.

If she's really turned on or else intoxicated, she may lick her lips. She may use her finger to pet the rim of a bowl or the stem of a glass. While listening, she may stick a finger, swizzle stick, spoon, etc in her mouth.

i'm surprised they haven't made a sticky thread on this subject yet.
there are countless threads just like this. it would save on space

I have read this particular quotation you are sharing (you should have given credit to the source, though) and I find most of it accurate and when I read it the first time some of it was a sheer revelation, except the following one:

Always been a fan of the eye contact test. If you look at a woman in the eye & smile, & she doesn't immediately look away, she's attracted.

This thread should be stickied.

If she looks "down and away" and back within the next minute, you're supposed to try making eye contact again and smiling (even if it's the second time smiling). She might act differently. (Also you're NOT supposed to stare while waiting for her to look back at you within the next minute, but rather look in the general direction, staring is seen as aggressive)

Good info, usually found on dating sites also

The problem though is that we aspies tend to overanalyze and freeze when faced in a potential situation.