What is love? Roommie says it's "depending on each othe

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What is love? My aspie roommie says it's "depending on each other." I certainly don't depend on him for anything, in fact, he rarely comes through for me. I'm like the caretaker/mom...he's like the kid. We have had a few long discussions about love. He loves me because he depends on me. He has never been "in love" or had a romantic or sexual relationship. He says everything about romantic love is absurd and codependent, unrealistic, crap from movies, etc. He doesn't even believe he could ever really "love" anyone because he doesn't have those kind of emotions.

I told him SOMEDAY he will fall madly in love/lust and he will know...but he says it's impossible. He says he hopes to find a sex partner someday but he is firm that sex and love are completely separate.

What do y'all think?

your roomie might think that it is 'depending on each other' but that is incorrect.

Love arises from within a person, with or without someone else to attach it to. Love is the same if you love chocolate icecream, your second child, Grandma or the love of your life in what ever form they may take. Intensity is only what differs.

Love is merely placing someone or something above yourself. If you truly love someone (in a romantic sense, familial sense, or even love of a friend), you would do anything for that person, even if it set you back somehow. If you love chocolate ice cream, you would keep eating it despite the fact that the doctor told you not to in order to keep your weight down. If you love a certain band's music, you would keep listening to it despite the fact that you're making people annoyed at you for it.

In contrast, if you put yourself first in all situations, you effectively love nothing and are a heartless bastard... also known as a narcissist...

I know what "affection" is...but since I have affection for inanimate objects, I do not know if this is 'love'. Or maybe my emotions are directed oddly.

Love is when something makes you happy.

baby don't hurt me... (sorry i couldn't resist)

The answer to love, and all other life questions is . . . 42.

Sorry couldnt resist. I had a roommate back in college with a poster about love and all these crazy sayings by noted authors, and social figures. I can conclude that love is such a deep seated attachment to something, that being without it is beyond painful or maddening. Think of it as a mental drug, and just one person (or many, preferences pending) is the only way to trigger this high. With it, you feel as though the world and all its stupidity makes sense . . . without, well . . . only people who have gone through a withdrawl would know. For example, think of one person who made a difference in your life and how shattered you felt when that person would no longer available to you. What you felt before was love. Bear in mind, this is just based on my observations.