Gay,Bi,Pansexual and Asexuals? Problems finding love?

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How many are there here? I am a bit unsure if I am Bi or just Gay myself and even though I am 19 I have pretty much come to the conclusion that I wont ever find someone. I have some quirks that tend to scare people off I can't stand physical contact unless I am told ahead of time or touch someone myself. I am very shy which seems to annoy people and when I do break out of my shell I can't stop talking until everything I want to say has been said and I am sure the person understood what I was trying to say and no matter how hard I try to quit talking I just can't even though I can clearly see that the person I am talking with is becoming irritated. Well there are other issues too but it would take to long to type them all out. Well when I do tell people that I have ASD even to people who do like my weird little quirks their opinion of me seems to change and they start treating me as if I was either a child or everything out of my mouth is a lie. My recent ex read somewhere that people with Autism are all compulsive liars and try to manipulate situations so he decided to break up with me because he didn't know if he could trust me because of my "Sickness".

Do other people here have these problems? Is it harder for the non heterosexuals with AS to find and maintain a lasting relationship? Do people without ASD look down on you and treat you badly? Oh and why is it that people seem to want to cure us? I have religious fanatics wanting to cure my sexuality and various other groups(including animal rights groups which seems very bizarre) wanting to cure my Autism it just seems so overwhelming.

Whatever you're boyfriend read was total BS. In fact the opposite is true about people with autism. We are more likely to tell the truth than anyone. We are very uncomfortable with social games and manipulating and most don't even know how to do it. This of course, isn't true for everyone autistic. You should tell him to do actual research before making a huge, hurtful decision like that. Actually, you're probabaly better off without someone like him.

Well by recent I mean like 3 months(it takes me awhile to meet people) it is a bit to late to bother with it. I do agree with you though Dustintorch I am very honest but still very considerate about other peoples feelings so I attempt to phrase things in a way in which nobody will feel hurt. I have a hard time making friends because of my Autism and Tourette Syndrome(I get nervous when my hands twitch in front of others)which in turn has caused me to have pretty low self esteem so when I meet people I try my hardest to be the best person I can possibly be while still remaining true to myself.

I am glad I found this site it has been nice being able to read through other peoples experiences on the various boards and to see how many people exist who I have so much in common with. This site is like a haven for intellectuals and for lack of a better word geeks. I have also learned quite a bit about my own quirks I never new so many people experienced similar things. This site should really make it onto some kind of news program.