What does it feel like?

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As of now, I have no idea what it feels like when you 'love' someone in a romantic way. I mean, I know affection, and have affection for people I like, but in the platonic/familial sense. It seems to be an almost anxious feeling, the same feeling I get when I am anticipating a TV show I really like. So I can feel like I 'really' like a person of the opposite gender, but I cannot determine what sort of love this is other than general affection.

I do not know whether this means I experience the sensations of 'love' correctly, differently, or whether I am just not getting that nonplatonic one yet, or if I ever will.

I have this sensation over a cartoon character (Starscream) that I really like, that I've had for over 25 years. It is a very strong affection.

true love consumes your life. nothing else matters. it's just that one person, what you can do for them, and the things they will do for you. they're the only thing on your mind every second of every day. life is given meaning. colors take on a new clarity. nothing is more pleasurable than basking in your partner's presence. it is the very definition of happiness. nothing compares to it, and nothing ever will.

if you survive losing that partner, those memories will still get you through the days.

Does this encompass a strong anxiety in the pit of the stomach?

not to me. I only got anxiety when she conversed with other men. I was afraid she might fall in love with them and leave me. I had little confidence back then. part of the reason it's over.

For me?

Yeah.

In typical aspie fashion, I didn't fall in love until relatively late in life. Crushing? Yeah. Love? No.

As a result, I knew I wasn't really able to give my interest what she expected. Nothing can build anxiety more than the feeling of certain failure.

Love huh? Well, from what I've heard the feeling can manifest itself in different ways for each person.

For me, it's a little like... well, if I love someone, their mere presence cheers me up. It's like their aura is a drug, being within range of it is addicting. Unlike conventional drugs, though, there are no adverse side effects... just feeling that aura nearby makes one think that everything is right and perfect in the universe.

Another thing that I've noticed is that if I love someone, I feel a strong urge to protect them. I have a tendency to make up different stories about the girl I'm crushing on, usually with plotlines mirroring Mario/Zelda or some other "hero + damsel in distress" tale. And if anything bad happens to them in real life, I try to comfort them while confronting the source of their misfortune. I'm quite sure one of these days this need to protect the one I love is going to get me killed, but its just one of those things that are logically insane, yet feel right in one's heart.

AAAAAAND in case you havent noticed, I'm a hopeless romantic. But I DO have a girlfriend... matter of fact I'm talking to her now on MSN.

Love is the greatest feeling in the world. Kissing someone you are in love with on the lips is just incredible. When I first kissed my first true love, it was a breathtaking moment. There are almost no words to describe it.

Did you get a semi-anxious desire/longing for them in the pit of your stomach?

Heheh, my gf and I were talking about our first kiss awhile back. She said afterwards I sighed as if I had just had an orgasm. It was one of those take-your-breath-away kind of deals, as far as I can remember, which is probably why she thought that.

"Northeastern292 wrote:
Love is the greatest feeling in the world. Kissing someone you are in love with on the lips is just incredible. When I first kissed my first true love, it was a breathtaking moment. There are almost no words to describe it.


Did you get a semi-anxious desire/longing for them in the pit of your stomach?"

I would suppose the "semi-anxious desire/longing" you describe could be equated with a NT's "butterflys in their stomach."

Sorry to lower the mood guys... but I HATE love... it's done nothing but destroy me. Yeah I love someone, but, you see, she doesn't love me, and all that's left is a big, black, void of pain digging its way into my heart.

EDIT: Sorry... forget I ever said anything.

EDIT(2): "What does it feel like?" - It's this really nice tingling feeling that you get in your chest whenever you think think about someone you like that makes you feel happy whenever your arround them.

I have no idea and I am married. I can't even feel it. I don't feel any attachments or anything. I can go on a road trip and not miss my husband. I don't understand how people can miss someone if they are going to be seeing them again. It's not like their husbands are going off to war and they won't see them again for six months.

I was told that love feels like you always want to be with someone, you don't want them to go away or leave and if they died, you be very upset. But there is the infacuation, the friendship and friends miss each other all the time and that doesn't mean they are in love. People even get upset when their friends die or their parents but that isn't romance love they were in. So what does romance love feel like?
My husband says that love is when you want to be with someone for the rest of your life.

What I have felt was infactuation when I first meet guys and I liked them from the start. But then the feelings go away and I feel normal again. Same as for sex, that also goes away too.