For those of you who've never had a girlfriend...

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...you aren't missing out on much. I can't speak for sex, I didn't have it, but a few months combinated dating/so-called "friends" I wish she never came into my life. It taught me one of life's cold lessons...that to many, dating is just something to pass the time, and when they've had their fun with you and get bored, they'll move on and hope you never contact them again.

As Aspies, most of us generally want to be appreciated and liked, not just temporarily liked and then discarded once it's found out everything isn't fun and games.

I also left feeling a deep attachment and attraction to her, and while at the beginning, she felt some chemistry, it's obvious I never meant anything to her other than being a cute guy that seemed cool.

They say "don't hate the player, hate the game." I hate both. And I do admit that maybe finding the right player to play the game might make things better, at what cost? Finding a lot of the wrong players in the meantime and going through heartbreak and indifference on their part?

Anyway, to those of you guys who spend hours fantasizing about women and girlfriends, you really aren't missing out unless you meet a woman who cares as much or more than you care about her, and even then, I hear of stalker situations where the woman follows the guy around and gets jealous when any remotely attractive woman looks at him.

Yeah getting your heart broken sucks. Sadly i've never had a relationship with anyone I was really into either. Or they broke my heart.

Between 80 and 90% of all relationships fail, and that's including a healthy NT percentage in the results.

Not all relationships are bad, and for god sakes not all women are bad. It's just a matter of trial and error, getting your heart broken a few times, then finally figuring out what the hell you need to do in order to develop a stable relationship.

In this area, that's something we have in common with NT men. It's just a matter of finding the right person, and hoping it works out. Honestly, I'm quite aware of my incompatibility with 99.5% of women out there today. I make a point of playing the odds, realizing that it just means filtering through a few more women than the typical man has to.

therange, part of romantic relationships is that either person is allowed to leave at any time for any reason. Just about everyone feels some resistance to accepting that when they first think about it, but learning to be at peace with it is part of what's needed to be ready for mature relationships.

After all, what's the alternative?

Yeah, I can see the benefits of never having one. I have never had one but I know there would be a bunch of crap I would have to put up with if I did. There are positives and negatives in everything. The fact that I have never experienced heart break is a great benefit to me.

I wouldn't mind if a girl was over clingy with me. I realize the setbacks that come with being with someone though.