Aspie w/Aspie issues, PLEASE HELP!! !!

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Ok, so here's what's up. my boyfriend is an Aspie too...
Only, he crowds me sometimes... time with him is good, but it's like cake, if you eat too much of it, you'll get sick... well, I told him I need time to me when we're at school... so he said he got it, but apparently I need WAY more time than he does... I had a nuclear meltdown today which he helped me through, but, I don't know, he wants to be all sorts of physical and I can't take much of that either unless I start it... and it can't get too out of hand either because sometimes things he does actually hurts... I am REALLY sensitive to pain for some reason... so anyway, I've tried talking, but How can I get it accross to him... I've tried telling him, but it's kind of like he doesn't listen. I don't know, I'm just overwhelmed....

Hugs,
~Eilidh

I don't know what to tell you except to stand your ground. You need what you need, and whether he gets it or not, if he loves you, he will respect your needs. If he won't sweetie, then you need to find another boy friend. Don't be afraid to expect to be respected.

When it comes to your issues, tell him to deal w/ it.

My advice would be to try to find out what each other's issues are, then the two of you try to work around those things.

LOL, your BF sounds like me, I'm mister Touchy-Feely when it comes to relationships. probably just keep reminding him, he'll get it eventually.

Buy him World of Warcraft and you will not even know he's around (except when someone ganks him)

Thanks you guys... W're doing better. He's the most understand man I could ask for... even during a Meltdown... I will need to ask some further questions on the Adult's sections though. LOL
Hugs,
~Eilidh