Help with a college girl...

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Like I've said I've never had an actual friend that's a girl 'meaning having a number and hanging out, etc...' Now I can talk to girls and can get along with everybody, but that's if there is a topic to talk about (horrible conversationalist) I've never gotten friends with a girl so I don't really know how to approach it other than talking about school or if I'm lucky someone else asks something and I chime in.

This one girl I liked had class with my last semester and we were friendly with each other, I remember one day she told me a story about getting stuck in a ditch and I joked with her a little. I made her laugh a couple of times and I think I can really get along with her and maybe get more than just friends. I have a feeling she noticed me being very nervous or not direct in eye contact when talking to her (we were sitting next to a wall waiting for class to start)

Well anyway, I never got her number or got any closer but I have been seeing her in the hall every once in a while and she is the one that keeps saying "Hi." I've never really been in a situation to stop and talk to her because there were a lot of people walking and we would always be going opposite directions, so I planning on doing that the next chance that I get. But I'm not sure what to say to get her number, etc... (don't know the right approach)

How about the following: "Hey, I miss seeing you in class this semester. We should grab a cup of coffee some time." And when she says yes, that's when you exchange info.

That sounds good but I feel im not comfortable to say it because I think she would feel creeped out...Idk why, it's just like facebook or something, I see people always commenting on pictures saying "gorgeous", etc... but I feel like I have to know the person good to do that...if you get what I mean...Thanks though

If she's the one saying hi to you in the hallway, she's at least interested in you as a friend. So I think Hope's advice will work. If you're worried about sounding creepy rather than friendly, think about what you would say to a male friend you met in class who you wanted to stay in touch with, and use that sort of wording. If it makes you feel any better about using Facebook to connect with her, my boyfriend and I navigated our friendship and the beginning of our relationship via Facebook messages. It was a little awkward, but not creepy. Cheers!

I know how you feel, I am in exactly the same boat. Sometimes it takes a while to build trust and a comfort level.

Yeah I just don't want to seem creppy so then someone that I like doesn't become an enemy...I really hope she likes me because she is very friendly, cute, and I think into some of the same music as me (not totally sure)

Next time you see her walking in the hall way, shoot the s**t with her a little bit. All you need is two minutes!! Then, tell her "you know what? you're kind of fun, give me your number (take your phone out and physically give it to her) and we'll grab a cup of coffee soon."

The first 2 minutes you have with any woman is what is going to carry you through to a date. Hopefully she liked what she saw initially!

If she rejects you, cross her off the list for good and don't think about her again. Next!!

Once you realize that it's the first 2 minutes of an interaction with a woman that is what's going to get you a date, you begin to massively devalue your interactions with women you approach with romantic intentions. Once this massive devaluation occurs, rejection carries MUCH less of a zing and almost becomes something funny. With my friends that *get it*, we sometimes brag about how bad our rejections are.