My relationship is over, time for a new start

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As some of you may remember, I posted here a while ago about my relationship issues. For a reminder, or if you didn't see it, I have posted the link as this post may make more sense if my past predicament is understood:

http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt119717.html

Well, I took some advice from some of you who posted and from my friends and family and I spoke to my boyfriend about how I felt and what I wanted from the relationship. It was a very very difficult thing to do but I knew it had to be done, otherwise I know I would have gone insane. His response was that we obviously wanted different things from a relationship and so we both, mutually, decided to go our separate ways. Yesterday, I moved into my new place. He remains in the place we shared together as, after all, it was his place to begin with. However, during the week, he was trying to get me to stay. I then pointed out to him that. as he was not willing to compromise, that I cannot stay as the same problems would only be there and that I wouldn't be happy, something of which he has now come to accept but is still upset over. I am upset that it has ended too but feel that the right decision has been reached. I am now looking forward to enjoying being single for a while because, as I am sure you can all imagine, I really am not ready for another relationship just yet as I still feel tender emotionally and need time to heal. I am lucky to have enough people around me who care about me and who will keep me company when I need or want it. I also have my Criminology diploma to study for which will keep me busy. I don't believe in sitting around and wallowing in misery, it is a terrible waste of time. I have shed tears over this and also felt very miserable at the demise of my relationship. However, I must now pick myself, make a new start and try and do worthwhile things with my life as newly free and single agent.

Status: Single, but not available

I hope you feel better soon... breakups can be so hard, even moreso when it's something you don't want to do but you know has to be done...

@Fiz, I'm proud of you for having the courage to do what you needed to do. I know it hurts - knowing you've done what's best for all involved doesn't really make it hurt less. But try to keep in mind that you've taken the first step in opening the door to new experiences, and that you'll be ready to embrace those experiences when they come along. Take care.

Break a leg, kid! Mature decision, rationally made - no doubt it will all work out best for you in the long run. Congratulations and best wishes.

Congratulations on your new period of independence!

People should always take some time off for themselves, rather than immediately rush to the next person.

Good for you. I remember breaking up with my ex when he didn't even want to work and he wanted a mom than a girlfriend. I didn't matter that much to him. It felt so good to be single again but I also felt sad and missed him and mom told me that was normal. But I dared to not take him back. Enjoy being single again.

Congratulations Fiz!! Please don't ever go back to him, he sounds a jerk (I just read the other thread).

Goodluck in your new apartment/life

I'm glad you've sorted it out, it sounds like it was a toxic relationship. All the best for the future.

I can understand where life is going to be painful for a while emotionally, but you will get through it and another guy will come along who will blow you away.