Candles, Flowers & other romantic item's colours?

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Okay, today I was told that women cared about the colour of the flowers you give them on a date night or even the colour of the candles at a romantic dinner... Aren't colours just there to be pretty? But apparently to women they have some kind of meaning... Can anyone enlighten me as to what the differences between white, red and yellow are?

You want white candles and red roses. (Red is romance, yellow is friendship, white is purity or innocence.)

Or, if you don't know the girl well (ie. first date), maybe even skip the roses and go for something else--calla lillies, orchids or even gerbera daisies.

When in doubt, simplicity is the best and, really, most sophisticated approach. Just a single red rose (or other flower) in a vase is all you really need.

Last edited by blueroses on 06 Sep 2011, 1:55 pm, edited 1 time in total.

You only buy roses when you are going out with someone or picking them up right? If she comes to visit you no roses are needed right? Or am I wrong?

It's seen as a romantic gesture. If they are coming to visit for a romantic dinner, which I'm guessing is the case, after seeing your other thread, then roses on the table might be nice. If you're on a tight budget, just one in a vase would be fine.

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i dont like getting flowers. even if you found some i liked, why would i want them dead in my livingroom:/

Lol, but maybe you don't like them because you're an Aspie.

Oldfashion, you mentioned that you're 20, that she's 18. I'm really imploring you - don't get too heavy or formal with this. I can almost guarantee that will scare her off. For a first date she needs to have fun, you need to have fun. I'd say just have your place clean, I really wouldn't have much in the way of music playing at all unless its really not that noticeable, maybe some TV, but keep the atmosphere as non-tense as possible. I wouldn't light candles (unless they're off the dinner table and because you like them in general), I wouldn't try to influence the mood with colors, the only way I would recommend is making her feel comfortable at your place and like she's hanging out with a cool and fun guy rather than scary. The two of you should BS about life, work, how she's doing, what's going on the upcomming weekend, etc.. That said as well make something for dinner that's more hip and trendy rather than heavy or romantic, ie. I don't know that I'd bring out shrimp alfredo and pinot grigio unless that's what you're in the mood for. If you want to you could even envite her over to cook with you - that could be neat. Overall the most important thing is that she thinks your cool and has fun, if its even just slightly - subliminally - romantic that will be plenty, anything too forward on a first date would probably seem a little off or creepy.

Oh, ok. It's someone you barely know and she's only 18? In the future, if this sort of situation comes up again, it would really be best to go out somewhere, rather than bring her home right away.

If you need to stick to the plans that were already made, I would suggest renting a romantic comedy and making appetizer stuff that you can eat during the movie or order in. Or, TechStep's idea of cooking together sounds fun, too.

You'd mentioned in another thread that you just moved to the new apartment. Could you say,"I'm sorry, I'm kind of embarassed, but I'm still not unpacked enough yet to have company. Could I take you out for (fill in the blank: a movie, cup of coffee, bite to eat) instead?"

omg that is so much like me!! ! i used to say i'd rather get a live plant. now that i am ancient i understand and appreciate the gesture behind flowers, but... i always sneak out my plant rooting hormone and try to get the flowers to grow roots because I DON'T WANT TO SEE THEM DIE. it has never worked. depressing.

someone once told me that the point is for someone to keep buying you fresh flowers just before the old ones die, so that you will always have a fresh reminder of his love. seriously WTF... wow what a lot of pressure all around.

(and techstep and blueroses have it bang on)

I don't care about flowers- I'd much-prefer the money be spent on something for us, if only part of a dinner.
If I have any preference at all, it's for fake ones, which last forever.



















Literally. Plastic = forever.

A flowers thread. and you're in it;) So what happens when dinner is flowers? should it come with bouquet of food?

that's a whole lot of win, right there.

Hopefully you'd have two bathrooms for that kind of date? I think that would pass through both parties like White Castle through a duck.

many flowers are edible. nommmmmmm