Alone and HAPPY?

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I have no girlfriend at the moment, but am not depressed or even upset about it - quite frankly, I don't really care.

I am happy, though. I spend my time doing what interests me - researching the stock market and hedge funds. I don't have all the worries and problems that stem from relationships; no arguments, nothing. I can just get on with what I want to do.

When I'm older, I don't mind if I'm alone. In fact, I'd prefer it, as I'd have more freedom, and I'd be busy running a business anyway.

I certainly don't want to get married and have kids - I see no point in either. If I do find someone I want to be with for the rest of my life, I don't see why I'd need a contract to do so. As for kids, having a family is stress, stress, and more stress - I'd rather relax on a yacht in Monaco

Anyone else feel the same or similar?

I'm alone and happy. I can't imagine myself getting a girlfriend again. It's just not on my list of priorities.

I have no girlfriend and happy too.

I have no boyfriend, and I'm happy. I don't want one, either.

I'm usually pretty content on my own. I sometimes wonder what it would be like to date someone, but I usually come around to thinking it would probably be more trouble than it's worth.

Yeah, exactly the same with me.

^I thought you were engaged, for some reason.

I'm alone and perfectly happy. I might be ok with dating someone, but Ive been just fine being single for the past year or so now :]

I'd like a boyfriend, but no boyfriend means more time doing what I love doing-painting, drawing comics and playing the bass

I feel exactly the same.

Congratulations, you've reached the level of personal contentment.

I am happy in the sense that I am fine alone...when a friend of mine turned 40 a long time ago she had this freakout where she said 'i can be alone at 40 but I don't want to be alone at 50.' that's kind of me. I was young then so i really didn't understand where she was coming from. I'm really nervous that I couldn't live with someone anymore because I haven't done it in so long. I do want to find my special one and I can take care of her and she can take care of me though.

the notably melancholy abe lincoln said "people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be." while i wouldn't go quite that far, i'd say that happiness can be a relative thing, in that the things which would make me UNhappy, as long as they are in abeyance, can allow me a semblance of comparatively happy feelings. think of a person getting hammered in the head by a rolling pin- they'd likely be sooooooo happy when the head-hammering stopped! granted, that is a limited happiness localized in time, but hey, it's something.
so in that respect, i'm happy that i don't have to work at the army hospital anymore, that i don't have to be around difficult people. i am happy when i am left alone and not bothered by meanies like at the aforementioned place. i'm happy that i'm not stuck in a miserable marriage- solitude is better than that hell. i am happy to be able to post on WP and have this outlet for my heart and mind. i am happy that a million and one bad things have not happened to me yet. my fleshlight makes me VERY happy especially after it does its job. sweet dreams make me happy. the occasional nice person and their smile makes me happy. i can visualize a very vivid and immersive fantasy life which includes a suitable fantasy mate, that makes me happy, and keeps me alive. so i have come to terms with my virginity and incel, which is nowhere near as onerous as it used to be, IOW technology has come to my partial rescue along with hard-learnt coping skills.

I'm still working on being "happy" if there is such a thing.

Not that I've ever been with anyone but after losing family members and the only friend I was close with, it is a bit alien now that I have anyone to console to except this forum. I'm not sure why so many people equate romantic love with fulfillment, I don't know what that's like. Guess I have the habit of separating the two. I know I was much happier being alone after my last abusive relationship.

I'm only happy when I don't realize the full weight of my lifespan.

You keep yourself busy, you keep your mind away from straying to memories, thoughts, reflections of past deeds, future ruminations...

I'm not really that happy but I'm content.

So many people nowadays think they need someone in their lives, because they see everyone else with someone, but what they don't realize is that a lot of those couples aren't as happy as they appear to be. They can actually have more stress, anger, frustration, and resentment.

Now, if you happen to find someone compatible, that you enjoy spending time with, and they allow you to be yourself, this can lead to a more fulfilling life, but that alone can't make you 100% happy. Alot of that comes from within yourself.

One way to live a happier life is to concentrate on what you love, no matter what other people think. If there isn't really a whole lot that interests you, then go out and try new things until you find something you like.