Selfish girlfreinds mother!! !

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I am with a very nice girl. Who is six years younger than me. (i am 28 she is nearly 22). She is like me who is on the Autism spectrum (not sure what form of autism she has though) I have aspergers syndrome. She is very very lovely has a bubbly personality ect. . . Couldn't ask for anybody else. Well here's the problem. Here mother has her bank card!! ! yes that's right! Her place is like a rubbish tip literally. Very disgusting not really fit for a human habitation. my girl wants her bankcard. But her mother refuses to hand it over! is this illegal what do i do?

thanks

drive her to the bank and let her get a new one. it's her account, right?

If her mother's name is not on the account go to the bank and get a new card and change the PIN # also. That will fix the problem.

I agree with Metalman and Sedaka, she should just get a new one if it is her bank account.

If it's in her mother's name though, or her mum is the one paying all the money into the account, then that's another story.

Your girlfriend needs to have her money in her own bank account under her name. Even if her account was under her & her mother's name when she was under 18, her mother's name should no longer be on the account. Unless of course the account is only under the mother's name.

OP, you need to understand if your gf's mother has some type of legal conservatorship over your gf. If she does, then you should probably speak with an attorney to determine why there's a conservatorship, and what you can do about it. Its unusual that your gf would be almost 22 and would allow her mother to control her money - particularly if she's living in an unsuitable environment. So that leads me to wonder if your gf is capable of making her own decisions - which leads me to wonder if there may be a conservatorship in place. Do your research before taking any action, or advising your gf to take any action. If there is a conservatorship in place, it should be challenged (since your gf is living the way she is). However, you have to proceed with caution to ensure your gf's mother doesn't get wind of what you're doing and behave badly toward you or your gf. Good luck.

I'm not sure what the exact situation is, but it looks like every possible solution has been covered.

I would like to add something. If there's no legal guardianship/conservatorship in place, then you'll be able to get a new card regardless of whether her mother's on the account. If she's not, a new card/pin is all you need. If she is, it's a relatively simple matter to transfer all funds into a new account, with the mother's name not on it.

One cave-eat, if you get a new account, you'll have to refile any direct deposit information for social security/anyone else. It won't take more than 10-15 minutes (make sure to get some checks), but you'll have to make sure to get that done.