Aspie + Aspie success stories.

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Are any of you in a 'succesful' relationship/marriage/partnership with another aspie? How's it working out for you? What problems do you face? Any other info appreciated. Horror stories are fine too, I'm not that biased.

How's it working out for me?

Fantastic.

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The usual problems, mostly having to do with misunderstandings, were indeed encountered. However, we have the bonus of knowing that we both misinterpret things, and so we are better able to stop and come back without its turning into a really big deal. Knowing one another's habits, and our requirements for security and time alone, is extremely helpful, too.

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I am in an enjoyable one.. The pros outweigh the cons...

I am.
It's long-distance, but still doing pretty well and no huge problems as of yet.
We've been dating for a little more than 5 months now .

Not to say there aren't some things that bother me at times.
But it's mostly just some small aspie quirks of hers that i'm just not generally used to dealing with in other people. Just kinda small things like she's almost never the one to initiate communication, how she seems oblivious to some things, etc.
But at the same time i'm understanding of that 'cause i'm like that at times too.

She's like my other half

Yeah, have you been?

Thanks guys. I'm happy to hear of your successful relationships. I hope y'all stay happy.

Keep 'em coming

Sorry, can't be of much help, I'm involved in an AS/HFA relationship. Have been on and off for the past two years.

I think it's implied that the two partners can be anywhere on the spectrum, not necessarily diagnosed with AS. Especially considering that the AS diagnosis is supposedly being phased out when the DSM-V is formally introduced.

I have been in an Aspie/Aspie relationship going on 7 months, now. We compliment each other so nicely, and have successfully overcome some hurdles. The biggest hurdle ahead, is to decide about moving in together. (Which we aren't going to seriously consider until one year.) Since we both need our down/ alone time, we may have to look into a rather unique arrangement. Meaning we are looking at possibly buying some land and having 2 separate dwellings or something. But I am extremely glad to have met this person!

Yes, the above is true. I'm sorry, but I use aspie to mean quite generically anyone on the spectrum.

Thanks for all the good posts. I'm quite heartened to read them.

7 month AS/AS relationship here. I'm definitely quite happy with how things are going.

For once I have a boyfriend who I not only don't have to explain my difficulties/awkwardness/problems to, but who understands said traits. My previous boyfriends have all required explanation, and never understood me in quite the right way. Every one of my ex's has tried to "fix" me. Though I didn't learn about AS until I met my current boyfriend; perhaps having that label would have helped my ex's understand me. My boyfriend was diagnosed with Asperger's in high school, and his father is also an aspie (and his mom was recently diagnosed), so the whole family has taught me quite a bit about AS.

I love having someone who values logic and scientific thinking the same way I do, someone who's rational in the same way as myself. It's very comforting. I don't feel confused, my boyfriend says what he means and acts how he feels. I'm not worried about accidentally offending him, because he understands what it's like and knows that I'm not meaning any harm. He's also been a huge help explaining NT customs... I thought I was great at faking, but he was the one who had to teach me how to recognize when someone I'm talking to isn't interested in what I'm saying hahahaha. (I thought the person would either leave the room or tell me to stop talking, he told me that people who are looking away, slouching, saying only things like "uh huh..." etc means boredom. Apparently I bore almost everyone I talk to and never noticed. Whoops.)

It's much less stressful than dating an NT. With my last boyfriend, I always had to be on guard. I had to wear my NT-persona mask 24/7, because he was so intent on fixing me and making me normal, that if I still wasn't normal after all my training he would be angry. He didn't understand that I couldn't just "learn to be normal" and BE normal... I can learn to pretend to be normal, but if I have to pretend all the time, I get really antsy and depressed...

I'm sure I'd have just as good a relationship with an understanding NT, but so far I'm happiest with my AS boyfriend haha.

Hey! My boyfriend Patrick (who is another Aspie like me!) and I have been dating, as of this month, 1- year now. He is the sweetest guy I know and an amazing person. He is very kind, supportive and caring to me. He's made me realize that, yes, Aspie/Aspie relationships are possible and can give hope to other people with Apserger's who are struggling with love/relationships.

Ive been in an AS/AS relationship for over a year and it is very unsettleing. Weve tried moving in together about 4/5 times now but keep haveing to give up on that one as were too unflexible and intollerant.

We get on best with each other than we do with anyone else and feel very loving and happy, however we also lack empathy and compassion for each other and loose patience with each others ways.

I think both of us would do better with a tollerant NT who would be a bit flexible and tollerant with us, but we would also both hate their wimsiness and chatter (and other NT traits).

I think its hard when one has intollerable aspie ways and is a difficult person and we are both difficult people and I dont think either of us would have a 'normal' relationship as we both have too many 'issues'.

We have tried to break up lots of times as we often think we should be alone or are too 'turbulent' to be together but we dont make it more than a couple of days without seeing each other as we miss each other too much, we want to share thoughts and feel such dispair without the other, I dont think we would be able to split up forever as life would be so colourless and sad without each other.