Been asked out, been flaked out and now I lost interest....

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There is that girl who knows very little about me, she asked me out about few weeks ago (and this was very unexpected) but she flaked out just the day before (using a reasonable reason), she didn't re-schedule the date. We often chat only through IM and still do.

I realize that the logical thing to do would be taking an action from my part, now the ball is in my court. However, after seeing her facebook profile , her tons of pics of outings and tons of friends, pic in and pic out everyday, and after realizing how socially active she is , how extrovert she is and how many friends she has , I lost interest to even make any step toward her since I can't see myself fit in any form or shape in her active social life. Insecurity, I know , but I can't help it. I even wonder why she even asked me out in the first place.

Anyone experienced something similar?

I'm afraid I have no real life experience to recommend my advice. However, just speaking from a theoretical perspective: do you like her? Do you actually want to go out with her? If so, I don't think you should worry about the other stuff. Just ask her if she wants to do something, and see what happens.

You know she's at least somewhat interested already, so it really falls down to you. What's the worst that can happen if you ask? If she says no, you're just in the same position you're in now, minus the uncertainty.

"You know she's at least somewhat interested already, so it really falls down to you. What's the worst that can happen if you ask? If she says no, you're just in the same position you're in now, minus the uncertainty."

Exactly!

Been very social doesn't prevent from having a introverted partner, really depend what the person seek in the person, maybe she want some stability to able to rest from the highly social life she got with friends. In other word might be willing to be more relaxing activity with you.

At least that one thing I would guess an extroverted person would seek in an introverted one. So if I was you I would send back the ball (would highly stressful for me I admit) just to check out where it is going.