Some possibly unwanted advice about getting hurt in..

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friendships and relationships.

People say "listen to your heart". Others say "Use your brain". I've been thinking a lot about these. A summary of what I think is the deal of each one:

Listening to your heart can go either way. It's like placing a bet. You can invest in someone emotionally, and either get great bliss out of that, or great heartbreak and sadness. You let the obsession and infatuation take over you like a poisionous disease, like an addiction.

Listening to your head may not give you what you want to hear, but it lets you see things for what they are.
Do you REALLY want to date them anyway? Do they have no bad qualities? Are they helping your life become more meaningful and positive?

Currently I am training myself to listen to my head every time my heart tries to creep in with it's sadness. I have a request of all you lovesick people. What does your head say about the girl you like?

My heart says - he's sweet. He's funny. He seems to be into you. He sure gives you alot of attention like he's gonna make an advance soon (based on past exeriences, anyway.) Anytime you get together with this guy you have a great time, so why not?

My head says: he's taken, you idiot. Back the flip off!



Yeah...my heart is not intelligent. There have been guys that my head hasn't got much to say about, but they end up not wanting to commit to me anyway. Le sigh.

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my head says that she is satisfactory.

my heart is a blood pump and does not think.

For me, the choice between listening to my heart and listening to my brain is as if you'd give me the choice of listening to an idiot or listening to a moron.

My brain tells my heart who to fall for & my heart takes over 1ce I'm in the relationship

All I can listen to is my head, my heart and I aren't on speaking terms.

I think it's not as simple as that. The heart is certainly more prone to idealism, but the head can overcompensate and produce 'false negatives' which ultimately prevent you from doing something reasonable. For example, the heart can say, "Go for it!" and the head can say, "It's never worked before, why is it likely to work now?" In that situation, one is a logical response, the other an emotional one, and whichever one you choose it's a bet.

My head has always said WTF so I take no notice of it these days. Stop thinking start acting I say HB!

Nice thread!
Always the head until you can trust with you heart..

My heart: Get a girlfriend!

My head: Get a girlfriend!

v_v

I can fix her!

(spare us the neutering jokes - they were too obvious anyway)

But since I am now asexual none of this matters!

I say use your head, but do not overanalyze. Overanalyzing doesn't allow you to go with the flow as it is not a flexible or adaptive way of thinking.

I used to always trust my heart, and since I started using my head to decide things in relationships I haven't been in a single one. It's been four years since I've dated anyone, good times.