Is this possible?

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I have a gameplan in life I want to follow. I feel it is important to get rid of the V-card ASAP with someone I'm relatively attracted to, so I'm not on dating sites months down the road begging crazy, ugly women for sex (only to regret it after) or venting in message boards. I don't want a connection, because I don't want to get attached. I just want to have the sexual experience over and done with.

After that, I feel I will be more focused to get a job (I won't be able to drive no matter what, but that shouldn't stop me from getting a part-time job) and be more active in general, and meet the right one in the natural course of time.

The right one to me is someone I can be completely honest with, the way I'd talk to a family member or someone on here. I could tell her about the virgin dlemma and laugh about it since I wouldn't be a virgin anyone and be able to please her. She could like me for me...quirks and all, and vice versa.

You might be thinking "Why not just get a life and meet the right one and have sex with her?" I don't want any woman that means anything to me to see me in this condition. I'd like to know what I'm getting into with sex, so if I date a girl, it's because I want to date her, not because I'm buying time to sleep with her.

So my question is, how likely is it to find someone relatively attractive (meaning simply not ugly or not, not my type at all) to lose the V-card to, without lying to a girl to get sex or hurting her feelings in the process?

Cruise craigslist and its dating area; you should be able to find a couple women who are willing to have the "no-strings-attached" kind of sex you're looking for.

Stock up on condoms and good luck!

There is nothing on craigslist but scams and spam.

Well I guess I'll try it the old fashioned way...get a few dates with women on plentyoffish (if I'm so lucky) meet them for coffee, impress them enough to get a day two...then suggest a movie night. I have the perfect movie in mind...Sea Of Love with Al Pacino and Ellen Barkin. Pacino is a detective investigating a murderer that's meeting people on romance ads in the newspaper and killing them...so he starts dating one of the suspects (Ellen Barkin) and they have steamy, animal-like sex.

striving to be a complete douche in life...there's a wonderful life goal, and further more, asking us how it can be done

Kilroy, the resident troll.

yeah, maybe I could have been kinder but what you are asking is using women as sex objects and wanting to "spare their feelings"

cause apparently that's okay as long as you're nice to them

Well in your case he is asking the right person how it can be done...

Yeah actually sounds fair to me. As long as they like it.

oh what? I use women now? Just cause I am an ass hole means I go around using girls for sex?
or did you mean just a generic douche thing?
well I'd rather be an ass hole then a whining emo self proclamed unlovable tool

(well if the woman wants a "just sex thing" then go for it, not my business to stand in the way if he actually gets somewhere)

I'd rather be honest about myself than try to cover it up by sh*****g on everyone else.

I know exactly what you're doing, you're tying to get people to feel sorry for you, I mean that is blatant, and I know I'm not the only one who can see it.
that's not honesty, that's trying to get sympathy

I think you suffer from paranoia worse than me or anyone I know.

no I've just been a member here for awhile, or did you mean the OP?

Not true, you just have to know how to use it, though I can see why so many people think so. If you post your own ad and require a key phrase like "use your favorite movie as your subject line" and don't sound too desperate/creepy it's completely possible, even simple, to meet non-sleazy people on craigslist. Where most people go awry is not requiring a key phrase, not posting a picture, and trying to get laid that same night and coming off as desperate, avoid those traps and craigslist can be your best friend.

ok, boys-girls-androgos

let us learn a new word: whores