Trying to ask out another girl...keeping my fingers crossed!

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I met a really cute photographer at a wedding I was hired to video. We'd met before, though it was a year before, and I didn't get a business card from her. Well this time, I got her website, and she had an email, so I wrote her asking her to lunch or coffee!

Granted, it's not the ideal mode to ask a girl, but I had no idea when I'd see her again, and I wasn't about to wait ANOTHER year. So I decided to go for it!

I'm keeping my fingers crossed, but until I hear back, I was wondering if any of you have had positive results from asking out a person via email?

BR

GOOD MAN!

GOOD LUCK

Not 'exactly' like that, but okcupid email -> facebook -> email/chat -> date next Sunday..so we'll see.

Best of luck to you!

Im currently pursuing a girl, and I only have her email as a means of contact. I'll let you know if it is successful! ...

No. You don't ever ask a girl out by email. Shows lack of confidence. Call her up and demand that she go eat dinner with you. Even if she says yes to the email, she will go on a date with you as a friend but you don't want that do you? You want her love.

Don't have much of a choice. Her email's the only contact I have. Until I see her again, I can't find out her number. I do agree, though. Email is very impersonal, and it can be hard to read people's emotions when its written in text. Talking through a computer sucks, when all I want to do is just hold her, and tell her how I feel.

He doesnt mention having her phone number. IMO if he doesnt have her phone number is better to send her an email than to do nothing and keep waiting until you randomly meet her again.

I dont think theres a problem with starting a relationship with a girl on the internet, just dont send her too many emails if she doesnt reply or she might think you are some sort of stalker.

Good luck.

But what other option do you have when you don't have a number? It'd be different if I knew for a fact that I was going to see this person at Event X next weekend. But I don't have the luxury. Not to mention, the events we both find ourselves at, namely weddings, are so busy, and we're both dashing around to photograph or film the bride and groom, and literally, there isn't more time than just a couple of exchanges, or some light banter between setups.

And even if I COULD FIND a number for her, I'm really hesitant to use that option, unless she gives it to me (handwritten, or business card, etc), because it just feels stalkerish, like I'm crossing a threshold of privacy...is she just going to wonder, "How'd this guy get my phone number?"

Again, email is not ideal, but there wasn't any other option. Probably nothing will come of it, and I'll continue to be alone. But I figured on trying...

You need to stop playing around. Someone else could sweep in and take her from you. Be a man of action and go for it.

Then email her. Email her saying that you would like to take her on a date. Just go for it, thinking about it only makes you that much more tense and like Adam, someone could interfere.

Already did that, see my original post, which started the thread...not to mention the title of the thread is "Asked another girl out..."

Can i be straight with you?. Most girls expect guys to ask them for their phone number. Like yourself I used to have my doubts when asking a girls phone number, however after a long period of time during which no girl gave me their number I figured I had to make an effort if I wanted a girls number, and guess what most girls I have asked for their number didn´t have any problem and they just gave me their number.


I have similar doubts when asking for an email etc, thats why I preffer facebook and such things. You only need to find out her name- surname and you can just add her(somehow most nts dont fins this saltkish.


You could just ask for her number on your next email if she answers back this one. Just try to make an appointment/date/coffee/whatever and ask her for her number under the pretext that one of you might have some problems and it would be better if you exchanged your phone numbers

Actuallly the title is misleading.
" Trying to ask out another girl...keeping my fingers crossed!"
Most people when they see the word trying at the start of a sentence they get the idea that something hasnt been fully done yet.
He is just implying that some other guy might "achieve" at asking her out and he is just trying to help you.

True, but any ambiguity would have been rendered moot by reading my post.

I've asked out through text and messenger, but it was as "just friends", not a date or anything.

good luck