I’m jealous and what the heck, this lady is complicated

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This lady is perplexing, what the heck. She calls me today and she is taking me out but taking a male friend to that is having a birthday today. She might be taking me for a reason, maybe to make me jealous or make sure he doesn’t try anything.

Her references to her old boyfriend and her foot and leg touching which are not accidences conflict with one another.

She trying to make me go bonkers (crazy)?

I don’t like new people.


Unless you are psychic you likely do not know either. How frustrating.

I wonder why I cannot find a lady that does not have these complexities, least it would be straight forward.

Now I have to get ready to tolerate this new person, maybe he will go do his own thing while her and I do something, but that would be rude becuase it is his birthday.

Why me!

Based on what you are saying....She has me completely confused also. And I'm not even interested in her.

It was not even his b-day, was a month prior, I was grumpy, I did not sleep well had to much caffien. I was gone for 3 hours seemed ok just to many noises at the place.

He was gay and obviously. Plus I was told he was.

Her and I have a pokign game it seems, its a type of flirtation. IF she brings up that boyfriend that moved again I might say something!

Another local lady online I spoke to concerning this lady, she is not someone I will ever meet. She said that her mentioning the boyfriend was to make me jealous, I think that she still has feelings for him. They did not break up and her bringing it up I theorize has to do with her still liking him. She does not want to move on.

Not that I know what I am doing, which is why this is frustrating because of this old boyfriend thing of not knowing what to make out of it. IF she brings up the boyfriend from time to time while I am present, there is boundaries being set?

Yet the flirtations, it is madness.

She mentioned at the dinner table to the other individual that she was going with family to vagas and from there going to "another state" to visit him.

Do girls that are friends flirt with guys that are friends, the terminology of girlfriend does not denote always relationship rather just friendship?

This is really driving me mad!

I'm confused by what sc wrote.

Specifically - why should he feel upset about a girl he likes seeing a gay boy. A gay boy would have no interest in her that could upset a potential boyfriend. Which leads to further confusion - if he was gay - how could he have been her old boyfriend as well? Or did he only come out the closet recently?

Or is "gay" a word that sc uses to describe people sc doesn't like? In which case I think sc should find another more appropriate word immediately, like "detestable" or maybe even "jerk".

And yes girls will flirt with gay or married or otherwise not single guys because it is "safe" and fun. These guys are not supposed to read anything extra into the flirting because they are either gay (not interested that way) or taken. And flirting is fun and builds a girl's self esteem.

Well MR. wobbegong

He wasgay, but you are making clear foul of thei nterpretation. I did not know who he was prior to going, the lady has been saying things which are misleading for some time.

Can you not read what I wrote incorrectly and not make trouble with me?

Also I did not at all like your post in my thread about kissing. Maybe you should find such as job title. I do not need not tell anyone anything in such job titles or choose that type of job position.

With your maybe's ask me, not question my mind to others. I say no such things to or of people, also he seems like a nice person. Not a jerk, he was gay and I was told so before meeting him, I did not know prior to meeting with her.

I did not know prior, nor the contents in her mind, yet the bringing of another guy could be interpreted as I did prior when posting.

With reference to the "individual" which was phrased as to not insinuate an insult, like calling him the gay guy, not an insult of gay in intents.

Also to consider gay as an insult I heard on the radio is not perceived of someone as a negative by other groups of people.

sc

I find your written expression completely confusing. Could you write clearly so I can understand and then I won't misinterpret what you write.

I'm ineligible for the jobs I suggested for you. But it's clear that its only the slobber you don't like so you might also be ineligible for those jobs too. I guess I was teasing you a little with what I wrote there.

I think - given I clearly can't understand what you are on about from what you write, that perhaps it would be best if I didn't respond to your posts any more. That would be less upsetting for both of us I think.

I could be really specific and detailed about what is hard to understand in your posts if you want, but I'll only do that if you ask.

Several people have tried to cause problems with me here online, I consider it stressful. You’re the only one that has replied clarifying, so it is obvious the intents are not to belittle..


If anything it is what has been said that is mutually confusing that is confusing then how I write it..

Theories of the previous x-boyfriends mentioning’s.

1. She still has an attachment to him in several ways.
A. Perhaps it is that she wants a replacement but really him and the bringing up of him is to this dismay.
B. Actually desires to be with him, her feelings for him are profound enough that she is perhaps making it clear she is not ready?

The flirtations might show instability to that theory, or that she herself is not sure herself and I am caught figuring this out myself with the uncertain suggestions that have happened

2. Using the boyfriend remarks to make me jealous.

If (2) is the case and there are chances number (1) is valid then it is not clear if I should concern myself with finding a way to do something that will stop her need to do so. As if I should show more interest somehow.

The need to create jalousies might have to do with something I am not doing that traditionally have happened in formations of relationships with her or is perceived to typically happen traditionally regardless of individual personal relational conditionings.

I think I should just e-mail her and ask about this in general and ask about intentions, I might ruin it though.

I am very happy to not have even talked, gone out with or have had any further confussions with the person. My mind is much happier.

From my experiences, usually when a woman incessantly talks about her ex, it usually means she's still emotionally attached to him... This kinda undercuts you... Sure she might flirt with you to some degree, but it's nothing serious. It sounds to me like she has her heart set on getting back with her ex.... Either that or maybe you were right, maybe she's trying to make you jealous.. But if I were a betting man I'd put my money on the former rather than the latter.