Does this girl like me?

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Theres this girl in my College writing class i met 3 weeks ago. She noticed i got a haircut (only one) and she said cute. She invited me to go on the bus with her and we talked until her stop. She always asks how i am doing every single class. Im really not sure what to do here.

Not really, she could be flirt or just nice.

No clue, sorry dude.
I don't understand them, and after reading some of the different suggestions that have been posted from different sites
on how to speak to them, it is no wonder most think I am not nice. And I am female.

But then, how they say guys should talk to females, would confuse me if they did..

I honestly feel sorry for guys, considering it seems women generally hold all the cards.

Go for coffee, no harm in that.

Do you have her number yet?

Ask her if she'd like to text or perhaps study together sometime.

Sounds like she might want to friends at least.

1) I agree, sounds like she does want to be friends, and she is making all of the first moves.
Wait to long, and if she is even a tiny bit like me, she may think your not really wanting friendship, cause she is the one always making the move.
You need to approach her at some point. You think guys are the only ones that get frustrated always asking?

2/3) If you are uncomfortable asking for her number right out of the blue, ask her to go for coffee, or like Zara said, study,
then say something like I enjoyed this, why don't we exchange numbers so we can arrange to do it another time.

4) Grrrrr texting.. long rant sorry..


Zara - you lost a point but gained a couple

I hate texting!! !
And I mean I realllly hate it!

Some people thought email was bad when it came out, 'what was so wrong with just using a telephone or snail mail '?- I thought it was brilliant (ohh god that makes me sound OLD)

When texting first came out, I thought it was also brilliant - I thought cool, it is like a 'peeper' (for those that remember those) combined with email - BUT I do not need to be near a computer or telephone to get the message. Awesome!

BOY was I wrong!

Statements like that 'Ask her if she'd like to text' drive me nuts!
If a person can ask another person if they would like to 'text', then why the hell can they NOT ask them to go for coffee?

She is already asking him to DO ACTUAL things with her, why not ask her to do an actual thing.

Have you seen her texting? Maybe she hates it..

My roomie, he will get up on a Saturday morning, be on the telephone, his cell in hand texting and on Facebook chat all day
Making plans with people for the day - Then come later in the evening, he is still doing it.. or ticked off, because nobody wants to do anything any more.

Well, sorry, but I wouldn't want to either if I just spent all day 'talking' to the person. What would we talk about?

I am not saying I don't text, or not to do it.. I am just saying use it like a tool, not a way to hangout and have full all day long conversations with people.

Look at all the threads here about - 'Why haven't they text me back' or, 'why have they not responded to me on facebook yet?'
It has been only a couple hours or maybe a day, give them time.

Because some people, may actually use it for what it was first made for. Or at least they think along the same lines as I do.

Sorry for the rant, but I really see them as evil little ball and chains

Ok i know aspergers have trouble with making moves, so how do i make the moves? There was a girl that liked me back in 9th grade but it slipped because i didnt know what to do.

Well I've worked with lots of younger women over the years and most seem more comfortable texting first before jumping into phone conversations. I've got a few numbers from girls that way before. If the OPs girl wants to go right to talking on the phone, that's fine too. It was just a suggestion.

sorry whats "OPS"?

In a word: You!

O(riginal)P(oster)!

You. Original Poster

Do what she's doing - show her attention, let her SEE that you have an interest in her.

Invite her to participate in the things that you enjoy doing, and find out what she enjoys doing and actively participate in those things - at least the ones you can share.

But don't hesitate and waffle over it, people become humiliated after a short while if they feel they're throwing themselves at someone who doesn't return their interest.

As it has been mentioned she is ahowing some sort of attention on you.

If you want to start a relationship with her maybe you should start by asking her the kind of question she asks you before she asks you anything(this way you are showing you are also interested on her and she doesn´t have to make the first move all the time.Many people hate having to make the first move all the time).

Agreed. You should show some interest in her.

Anyone have any ideas on what i should say to her? This is proably a stupid question, but i really have no idea to talk a girl who is not in my family =(

She is interested in you. That much is clear, the rest is up to you. Ask her if she wants to hang out sometime. It sounds like she'd like to.

Are you living in the dorms or off campus? That can be a little relevant to activities for the two of you.

Hm, I don't know. From what you're saying, she sounds like she's just being friendly. Don't see much flirting either. Does she let you get close to her? If she's not comfortable with that, she doesn't like you that way, especially after 3 weeks. You can usually tell if she likes you within the 1st week or so. Although, a little trick to see if she likes you (Mind you, it doesn't work on ALL girls but, I'll say quiet a few, it does), take her out to coffee or ice cream. Offer to pay for her. If she doesn't resist at the idea at all, there's nice potential showing that she may like you. I'm not saying that all girls are like that, I know some girls that will not let their boyfriend pay for them. And, even if she allows you to pay for her, don't automatically think "she must like me!" she may just see you a good and nice friend and sees you as a close or becoming a close friend.