Woman: what physical traits must a potential boyfreind have?

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I thought it would be interesting to gain some opinions from women on the subject. I've always wondered if guys who don't have an "upside down triangle" body shape can attract a resonable amount of woman, as i know this is the body shape that represents the highest level of fertility.
for example, would you still find a guy whos about 6 feet and is "stout", especially around his mid section (who has a pot belly in other words lol) attractive?

any contributions would be greatly appreciated

Last edited by Jamie8675309 on 04 Oct 2010, 12:50 pm, edited 2 times in total.

Upside down triangle shape doesn't mean the guy has to have no fat. As long as that bone structure is there, I do not mind the guy having fat at all.

I love the male bone structure. Broad shoulders and a much narrower hips than women. You can still maintain this shape with a fat gut.

I'll put my foot down though I don't want massive man boobs.

I've had some crushes on some pretty out of shape men who were almost twice my age. It was more personality than anything else. That steroid induced triangle shape like the guys on Jersey Shore doesn't appeal to me. It's like fake boobs - meh. I usually like normal guys who are basically fit. I wouldn't want someone who didn't take care of his body. The face is very important to me. Especially the eyes.

I like guys ranging from the super-thin (not overly muscled, I like lean muscle) to the chubby. No matter what they look like, I have to like their personality. The physical attracts me to them in the first place, but the mental has to be there to back it up.

I think I don't like guys with big butts or really big man-boobs. And they need to be small enough to see their junk.. that's about as chubby as I'm okay with. And on the other side, they can't have no muscle-tone at all.

Why do guys call that area their "junk", when some are so proud of them that it serves as a substitute brain?

I'm the same as far as these preferences go. Also, his boobs shouldn't be bigger than mine (and mine aren't very big). I'm exactly the other way around re: attraction, though. I almost never find a person attractive until I get to know their personality. Then, I can be attracted to them based on their personality, but the body "has to be there to back it up." But, since personality comes first, I can find nearly any body type (and other physical characteristics) attractive on the right person. Though I may theoretically prefer the guy be taller than me but not a giant, relatively fit, and having at least a little hair on his head, in practice I'm just as likely to be attracted to a chubby (or stick-figure) man who's 6'4" (or 5'2") and has a shaved head.

If my brain were as mentally deficient as that, I'd call it "junk," too.

Depends on the guy. Once upon a time when my NT sisters forced me to sign up for a dating sight, they had body type option in the preferences between average and heavy called "a few extra pounds"

Apparently most men figure "a few extra pounds" means 50lbs. Well it doesn't. It means 15lbs-20lbs.

If he's heavier than that, I might still consider him depending on how the weight is distributed and how much I liked his other traits.

I'll also take into consideration why he's overweight because there's various reasons a person can be overweight.

If he's overweight because he has no concept of a healthy diet, thinks walking three miles is a form of torture, and he fills his past time with watching movies and playing video games, then no, I would not consider him. We'd have massive personality conflicts.

I just call it the trouser snake, same thing really >_>

So?

The prevailing theory is that humans (as well as other animals) are biologically inclined to be attracted to others who possess characteristics which are indicative of fertility.

That may be the base instinct but I think most of us have moved past that at this point. Especially those of us not looking to make babies.

You can move past basic instinct in the conscious thought, but never in the animal brain.

I can't choose who i'm attracted to, my animal brain chooses for me. I don't want to make babies, but i'm still attracted to those who have the qualities to make em.

I don't look at someone and think "hmm, hes not ideal for making babies, i don't want to date him" I don't think anyone does. They're attracted to who they're attracted to.

Nail on the head right there.

I focus more on the face, really. I'm a sucker for pretty eyes and a nice smile. Clean hair is also a must. As long as a guy takes care of himself, he should be okay.

...of course, all of this could be meaningless if his personality was crap. An ugly personality makes an ugly person but that's getting a bit off topic here. XD

I like long hair, long [b]PLATINUM BLONDE [/b]hair.