Asking out a girl while she's working

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There's this pretty black woman who works at an ice cream store several blocks down from my apartment complex. I want to ask her out or at least befriend her, but I'm afraid that it won't be considered acceptable for customers to chat with employees at work. Could I still pull it off, and if so, how?

People do that all the time. It's not uncommon, i've had friends and co-workers who get asked out at work by customers. I don't know how this helps you though :S

There's no real right way to ask a woman out I don't think. Just be prepared if she does reject you and don't take it personal.

Ideas: Ask about her day or how she's doing. Get to know her a little better if you haven't already but give her some space.

Ask but don't pressure her if she would like to go out and have coffee or go somewhere simple. Some women including me are flattered by that kind of stuff as long as it isn't overdone or overly romantic. She also needs to get to know you better. Giver space though, most women imo don't like it when a guy comes off desperate or clingy. I know that sounds cliche and maybe cold but I think it's very true.

Again though, if she turns you down, what's the worst that could happen? Sometimes you need to take some chances whether you've made mistakes or not. It's part of the social process of learning.


Otherwise I think you have a very healthy attitude. Keep us updated if anything good or bad happens.

There was a bartender chick I saw one night while out that really grew on me. Went there a week later and to kind of force some conversation when she asked me what to drink I told her "i'm kind of in the mood for anything, why don't you give me your favorite"

She gave me a budweiser.
I didnt speak to her again.


I also worked stock in a furniture store for a while, we had some very beautiful women on the sales floor and they would get hit on all the time and there were several cases of guys showing up too often and getting pushy and I got to play the faux-boyfriend. Had a whole system if a guy got pushy and would show up more then once. They'd call back to stock letting me know what's up and we had a little scripted thing to go through to let someone know we were a serious couple =P.

From what I gathered from working the NT women who got hit on a lot they enjoy the compliment involved in it, find it flattering. But don't push beyond a no, then it becomes creepy.

MissConstrue's advice sounds spot on.

Well, I went to the ice cream store last night and then this morning, and both times she wasn't there. I'm going to try again this evening.

Went to the place again and found her this time, but after talking to her, I learned she already has a boyfriend.

i always feel awkward if someone asks me out at work. and pretend I'f get in trouble with my boss lol, even though I wouldn't

I think anytime someone likes someone they feel like talking about it and describing the person =P. Saying she's black is no different then something like "oh man, i like her, and she has the prettiest eyes!"


Bummer she's got a boyfriend but like Carole said, no reason you can't try to befriend her, just definitely listen to her advice on it.

ehh, its the same as if he had said she was blond with blue eyes. Black is just a quick way to describe appearance. /shrug