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25 Oct 2010, 9:59 am

So, i've been with my boyfriend for a while - and it's been good.
But over the past few days it's like we first met again, like a second honeymoon period?
I've never had a relationship in which this is happened before - will it last long? has anyone had any experience with it?

Not sure if i'm worrying over nothing (i usually do) but i'm worried once it ends things will go bad - like every other relationship i've had.

Any advice/comments/whatever?
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25 Oct 2010, 11:05 am

emlion wrote:
So, i've been with my boyfriend for a while - and it's been good.
But over the past few days it's like we first met again, like a second honeymoon period?
I've never had a relationship in which this is happened before - will it last long? has anyone had any experience with it?

Not sure if i'm worrying over nothing (i usually do) but i'm worried once it ends things will go bad - like every other relationship i've had.

Any advice/comments/whatever?
You guys generally have invaluable advice! (:


Not a clue. The Honeymoon phase can range from a few days to years.



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25 Oct 2010, 11:12 am

I've been with the same person for 11 years now. And it still seems like just yesterday when we met!! !

Don't stress, em. As long as the two of you WANT it to work, it WILL work. My wife and I have two children, and if I ever have that really cold, scary feeling like "Is this REALLY real???" I just look at my kids. Nothing can take that away, and I know that my relationship with my wife will be perfectly ok from day to day.

And if things don't work out, just be thankful for the days that were good. You WERE in a good relationship, things WENT well for a while, and parting only opens the doors to better things to come.



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25 Oct 2010, 11:14 am

AngelRho wrote:
I've been with the same person for 11 years now. And it still seems like just yesterday when we met!! !

Don't stress, em. As long as the two of you WANT it to work, it WILL work. My wife and I have two children, and if I ever have that really cold, scary feeling like "Is this REALLY real???" I just look at my kids. Nothing can take that away, and I know that my relationship with my wife will be perfectly ok from day to day.

And if things don't work out, just be thankful for the days that were good. You WERE in a good relationship, things WENT well for a while, and parting only opens the doors to better things to come.


That's so re-assuring.
We want it to work so much. He's perfect and he says i'm perfect for him- and for the first time ever, i believe him.

Also, you're right if things do go bad, i'll always have these memories and it's so nice to be able to balance some of the bad ones with good ones.

Thank you.



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26 Oct 2010, 4:43 pm

Please try not to dwell on the negative. This person has stayed to fend off the demons harming you. There are not that many strong and compassionate people in the world. So many are still looking or waiting to be found so cherish every moment you have together.



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26 Oct 2010, 4:53 pm

curlyfry wrote:
Please try not to dwell on the negative. This person has stayed to fend off the demons harming you. There are not that many strong and compassionate people in the world. So many are still looking or waiting to be found so cherish every moment you have together.


Yes! :D
I am attempting to do just this.



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26 Oct 2010, 9:32 pm

AngelRho gave great advice.

Honeymoon type feelings and times when your love seems to grow will always come and go. They come like waves. I've been with my husband for over 16 years and there are definite emotional cycles that seem to loop. A strong relationship depends on being able to navigate your way through the low points while remembering that you care for the other person.