Board index › Coping in life › Love and Dating

Girls often think I'm cute.

Page 1 of 1 [ 9 posts ] 

Previous topic | Next topic

kruger4
Toucan
Toucan

User avatar

Joined: 26 Sep 2010
Age: 36
Gender: Male
Posts: 264

18 Nov 2010, 1:34 pm

I used to think I was decently ugly but apparently girls think I'm cute, I know this because of several sources. I know that it's not a good thing, well at least not as good as being told I'm hot. But obviously I knew I wasn't hot already, at least I'm not ugly. How do you think this will affect me? I'm not sure how to ask this question but I guess I just want to know what you guys think about this.



Vector
Toucan
Toucan

User avatar

Joined: 13 Sep 2009
Age: 60
Gender: Male
Posts: 297
Location: San Jose, CA

18 Nov 2010, 2:26 pm

I hope this will give you a little more confidence and help you to see yourself more in a more realist way.

Congratulations!


_________________
Landon Bryce
www.thAutcast.com
a Blogazine for the Aspergers and Autism Community


Asp-Z
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 6 Dec 2009
Age: 32
Gender: Male
Posts: 11,018

18 Nov 2010, 2:55 pm

Of course girls thinking you're cute is a good thing.



nthach
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 28 Feb 2008
Age: 40
Gender: Male
Posts: 1,457
Location: SF Bay Area

18 Nov 2010, 3:03 pm

I agree as well.



Mindslave
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 14 Nov 2010
Age: 37
Gender: Male
Posts: 2,034
Location: Where the wild things wish they were

18 Nov 2010, 4:48 pm

Why is that bad? Now that you have the looks, you can get any girl you want. Of course, you already had the looks, and looks don't matter as much as they appear to anyway.



The_Face_of_Boo
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 16 Jun 2010
Age: 43
Gender: Non-binary
Posts: 33,459
Location: Beirut, Lebanon.

18 Nov 2010, 5:57 pm

Girls think I am cute as a hedgehog ......



conan
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 13 Jul 2009
Age: 38
Gender: Male
Posts: 784

18 Nov 2010, 6:37 pm

posture, confidence etc are largely more important than looks. you can fake that but i would not try it if you want a relationship. become it, don't fake it! the first thing that is needed prior to all this is self esteem (IMO)



kruger4
Toucan
Toucan

User avatar

Joined: 26 Sep 2010
Age: 36
Gender: Male
Posts: 264

18 Nov 2010, 6:55 pm

Well I don't really agree that it's a good thing and I'm old and smart enough to know how the world works, I know that when girls say you're cute they usually don't want to date you. But I guess it's better than being ugly right?



Janissy
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 5 May 2009
Age: 58
Gender: Female
Posts: 6,450
Location: x

18 Nov 2010, 7:25 pm

kruger4 wrote:
Well I don't really agree that it's a good thing and I'm old and smart enough to know how the world works, I know that when girls say you're cute they usually don't want to date you. But I guess it's better than being ugly right?


"Cute" has multiple meanings, depending on what the girl is thinking at the time. It can mean any of the following:

1) Very physically attractive and somebody I very much want to date

2)Harmless and overly youthful looking and reminds me of my younger brother or nephew, dating would feel like incest or pedophilia (Justin Bieber)

3)Moderately physically attractive and somebody I might or not not want to date depending on what his personality is like


You are assuming that girls mean 2) and in fact think that is the only meaning but they could just as easily mean 1) or 3). You just don't know unless you get to know them. Don't assume that it means dating is not an option. You will be wrong just as often as you will be right.