Ever asked out an instructor or a teacher?

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I did. I went back to my high school three years later and told her how I felt. It was nervous and awkward, but I got it off my chest. I thought about doing in again when I was 24, but didn't.

Have you ever? Would you?

I had a brief fling with a teacher at my college.
It was actually pretty awesome.

I had a long serious infatuation with a young lady superviser in my job, and thought long about asking her out, but decided I couldnt handle it if she agreed to go out- dating my boss in relatively new job was just seemed too wierd to deal with.
So I never did ask her out. Probably the wise decision.

If a lady superviser/teacher came on to me I might go along with it. But being the initiator of such a relationship - i wouldnt have the nerve to do that.

Why.

It's not so much of a problem if you're not a current student and maybe if all the students in the room are 30-something adults, but otherwise, a teacher who agrees to go out with a student should be ashamed of him/herself. Well, be ashamed and get fired for questionable work ethics.

Generally, going out or having sex with a current superior (teaching assistant, teacher, professor or boss) is a bad idea:

* Trust me, people will find out. And then that will be the only thing they think about when your name comes up. People will assume you have no talent in the classroom or on the job and are just trading sex for a leg up (pun intended).

* Also, people are going to assume that whatever your motivations, your superior will give you unfair advantages. In fact, that itself can lead to sexual harassment charges against him/her (even if you fully consented, the relationship in an important sense causes discrimination in your favor at your peers' expense).

* Next time your superior criticizes you, are you going to continue to be as objective in responding as you were before you got so close?

* What happens if it ends? Especially if it doesn't end well?

Note the term "current". Once you're out of their classes (preferably schools) or offices, and you've reached the age of consent, have a good time!

I've been asked out by students at work. It's very flattering but I wouldn't do it for ethical reasons - never mind the fact that they are immature.

I had the temptation to ask out my spin instructor at the gym...

No, nor would I. That is a good way to get the instructor fired and yourself expelled.

I have a MASSIVE crush on one of my lecturers right now lol

Wouldn't ask her out though. There's no way in hell she'd have me