I met someone and am in love! at least I think.

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How many of you have been in love before? and also how did you know? I've been talking to to this beautiful, kind, down to earth 21 year old(im 19 turning 20 next month) puerto rican girl and she wants everything to do with me. She is turning 22 next month and wants to make me happy. we talk everyday on the phone for hours at a time and she wants to explore her sexuality with me and no one else. she has 2 children a 2 year old boy and 3 year old girl. She has an inter uterus device that keeps her from getting pregnant for 5 years. she thinks about me everyday and I think about her everyday.

I'd say if you were going to get invovlved that is your call. the kids are still young so they will not remember "daddy" that much (If he's even still a part of there lives) if it came to marriage being there step father and being a father figure in there life would be great. IMO don't hide anything. The girl should say kids this is X my boyfriend he's going to be living with us or (have her introduce you to the kids basically) If you want to take on the hardship of a girlfriend and helping her raise her 2 kids go for it.

To answer your question, if you think about her every day and it is reciprocal, then yeah I would say it is love, or at least one of the definitions of love. Will it be just a "crush" or the lasting type of love? only time will tell, you will know if you end up together and in a few months or years you are still happy together.

To define love isn't easy, I think there is a spectrum, from loving a little bit to loving a lot. A lot of people say "I love him"/"I love her", but look at the divorce rate ... did they really know what love is?

But the point is if you feel happy around her then yeah there is some love there, attraction, or however you would call the way you feel when you are with her.

I think too much ...

Becoming a stepdad tho is a big responsibility, I am a stepmom myself and sometimes it is not easy, but it would have been much easier if my stepson's manipulative mother hadn't been around, she made things a lot more difficult (like trying to turn him against me and his dad). If you are lucky their father won't be around, or if he is around he won't be a bad person, and they will consider you their dad or their dad #2. Either way it is a big decision and responsibility. At least before deciding I think you should meet the kids and do activities with them, be around them for a while, and see how it goes.

I wish you good luck

Shadi