Not sure what I'm feeling - help??

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So my best friend thinks she might be in love with me. She confessed in a letter and, reading it, I felt really flustered. I'd never considered the possibility of us being more than friends because from day 1 she'd said that she's straight (though, I kind of suspected otherwise). I... kind of like the idea? I've had that 'lovestruck' feeling since reading it yesterday, but I'm not sure if I'm suddenly realizing that I had repressed feelings for her or if I'm just taken with the idea of being in a relationship again.

Whether or not anything comes out of this isn't relevant at the moment (due to our current circumstances, it'd be at least 8 months from now before it became anything substantial), so I'm not going to worry about that part just yet. Basically, I'm just wondering if there's a way to be sure where this lovesick feeling is coming from? The whole aspie inability to identify emotion is messing with me here, so I thought it couldn't hurt to ask for help in case someone else had figured out a way to be sure.

I'm not sure if I have an answer, but the fact that you are actually asking from where the feeling comes shows that you are looking at this from a mature angle. I believe that thoughts can affect feelings, so it might be good to ask yourself what thoughts you are thinking. What emotions does each thought evoke? This might not give you a definitive answer, but might be a start.

Good luck!

i am no psychologist but here is what i think

you have been friends with this person for a while (im geussing) so when she says she loves you she is probably thinking that "we are good friends and i love it" so you being the friend she probably wants to be with you for a long time or something like that thats just a though

OP, I think my opinion would be different if I had a little more info about your own background. I'm going to assume that you identify as either lesbian or bi-sexual, so you're comfortable with the idea of a same-sex relationship.

I think it's absolutely understandable that you have a "lovesick" feeling when someone you clearly like and respect confesses being attracted to you. It's nice to be wanted....it's even nicer to be wanted by someone you like and admire. IMO, it's a perfectly natural reaction, and I hope you enjoy it.

In terms of whether anything comes of her attraction to you or not....I don't know if she's always known she's lesbian and just wasn't out, or if she's bi-curious, or bi-sexual or just kinda generally confused right now. I had the same thing happen to me when I was in college. My roommate, and very good friend at the time, had come out to me. I was a little surprised (she had a bf), but completely cool with it. A few months later, she confessed her love for me. At the time, I was too shocked to consider a same-sex relationship, she wasn't able to walk the line between friendship and attraction, and the friendship ended. Since you seem to value the friendship, please proceed with caution, okay?