Anyone here find intellect an attractive qaulity?

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If you presented two girls in front of me:


girl A: really pretty average intellect


Birl B: Really smart....average looks


I would go with girl B



Is desiring a intellectually smart mate something pre-programmed that everyone wants? Is it just me?

A lady that could debate with me about things intellectually would be an addition to my life beyond the instinct of male behavior. Instead of her cleaning the house I and or she would pay for a housekeeper because brilliant minds make money. I think anyways.

I used to think intellect was a really big deal, but then I started to redefine what I meant by intellect. I realized that my idea of intelligence isn't necessarily someone who knows a lot, but someone who wants to learn, and someone who knows how to learn. I guess you could call that wisdom. I like people who know how to relax. It's tough to do, and even tougher to maintain.

Is that 'really pretty average intellect'

Or 'really pretty, average intellect.'

I'm probably more likely to be attracted to and attractive to B.

My brothers like girls who are smart (and rich) enough to have a college degree, but God forbid those girls know more than they do when it comes to stereotypically male fields.

If I were presented with two guys and guy A would choose me for my looks and guy B would choose me for my supposed intellect, I would go with neither. I can't stand someone who's short-sighted enough to like me based on something so unimportant.

I was looking for intelligence as a non-negotiable, as well as Christian and not using drugs and a lot of other things. But then I'm a woman and less stimulated by looks.

It's not so much about general intellect for me, it's about knowledge in specific fields. If a woman is musically talented, it's a turn on. The rare video gamer girl makes me think of acting like the apes in 2001: a space odyssey...

Intellect is a turn-on.

Intellect and hot is beyond words.

Personally, you have to look at what intellect is.

I don't think people are looking for an intellectual being per say.

I think they are looking for someone who can challenge them mentally.

When we think intellect, what we actually mean is we're looking for an equivalent equal who can challenge us mentally.

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Gotta admit I'm not bothered by intellect tbh. If a girl I like is smart then great. But I'd rather be with someone I find physically attractive and whose personality I like, than someone intelligent.

i actually agree. i find intelligence very attractive in men and women, but not necessarily in a "high IQ" kind of way. i like when people are interested in cultivating their minds, and i find it really sexy when a person has a strong working knowledge of something, even if the topic is not an a typically intellectual field.

I have to be attracted to the person, but intellect is just as important. But I feel the same about both in this way...it's not that they have to be stereotypically good looking or they have to have intellect as in high IQ or a high school diploma, it's that I find them attractive/smart.

I've dated someone with a high IQ that wasn't very smart, and I've dated someone attractive that wasn't very smart. Neither were that great.

My immediate reaction is to go for the smart girl, but is that what I really want in a life partner?

Let me put the question another way:

(1) Do I want a wife who will love me and look up to me and see me as the head of the family?
Or...

(2) Do I want a competitor who wants the last word? Who makes more money than I? Who thinks her career is as important or more important than mine?

Seriously. Think about that.

Desiring a person in the intermediate zones of smartness, probably. The relatively unimpressive I.Q.s of 120 or so, if we're going to use I.Q.s as intelligence quantifiers. People in the 140s and up are actually too smart to be much desired. Very smart people have phenotypes that correspond to their smartness, and those phenotypes are not a turn-on for most people. It's a sad fact. But even if they didn't have that phenotype, most humans would prefer the conventional wisdom-spouting "smartass", rather than the rational genius.