Is it easier for aspie women than aspie men?

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It's the opposite with me - I'm emotionally stable and never had major problems in the area, but my social skills seem sub-par even for someone on the spectrum. When I first joined here I was very surprised by the complexity and ability some posters show in the way they interact with each other. I worked very very hard for a long time to built coping mechanism in this area and I still don't have a real understanding most of the time - I just go through the motions and have learned what's expected of me, but that's all.

Also, quite a few of the male regulars in the L&D seem extremely disturbed emotionally speaking.

I think dating was easier for me as an individual because I never cared one bit what others think of me and although I wanted love and acceptance I've never been as desperate as some seem to be and I didn't mind that much being lonely or single.

yeah there is more then a few messed up individuals on the forum

Like...?

if I say who, then its considered a personal attack
I am allowed to think all I want and no one can do a thing
but if I start naming names, mods get involved

Also, a lot of it is going to be determined by how severe someone has AS, regardless of gender.

I do agree with those who said that everybody is going to have some set of problems, even if they're starkly different.

I agree with that. A severely autistic woman is bound to face the same problems as a severely autistic man.

I suppose it just boils down to luck. Many NTs struggle, as well. Just because someone has fantastic social skills, doesn't mean that he'll have hordes of women after him. On the other hand, a socially awkward Aspie just needs one woman, who's patient and kind enough to understand and love him for who he is, and there is a match made in heaven.

It really boils down to chance. Roll the dice.

I'm still shaking the dice

We have soooo many of these threads already.

There's really no way to determine who it's "easier" for, and we don't even have a way to define what "easy" is...it's something different for everyone. There could be a ton of reasons why you see more comments about women being in happy relationships.

I third this sentiment. I'm really tired of the negativity.

yes, this should be obvious?

A hermaphrodite might know.

Lol. XD

Seriously though, a hermaphrodite would have a completely different set of problems that neither men nor women experience. D:

Pretty sure a hermaphrodite who's been going to a support forum not unlike WP wouldn't appreciate being used as a punchline of an inside joke.

you mena it should be obvious that it is easier for aspie women? if you really think that, then all i can say is that it's not a big surprise that you are male. if you were female i doubt you would think this way.

What I get sick of are the incessant assertions that it's somehow easier for women because all we have to do is look attractive.

Being blessed with good looks is a positive regardless of gender or whether one is Aspie or NT-

what the hell does it have to do with the much larger group of ANY demographic that is average or even ugly?

Again, the assumption that if I don't have a GF, that's because I'm not trying. I've busted my ass as hard as I'm sure you have yours, and I have a 7 year lead on you, and with the exception of one woman who just looking someone easy to manipulate, I still have never gotten anything but rejection.